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OLD - two messages per day, non over the weekend. Would you trust?

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 07:55

Started to chat to someone online. So he texts once early morning and one message late evening after 10 pm but before 11pm.
Hasn't texted over the weekends at all. But did yesterday after 10pm and stated being busy...

Would you trust?

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 10/08/2015 08:00

Have you even met yet?

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:04

No, just getting to know each other

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:05

Its first time I am taking OLD seriously and don't know what to think of this...

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 10/08/2015 08:05

Why not meet?

You are investing this time and effort in someone you might think is a total prat in real life.

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:07

He lives outside of London, and non of us actually mentioned meeting up...

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 10/08/2015 08:08

Gawd, is that what you are looking for then- a pen pal?

NerrSnerr · 10/08/2015 08:10

If you haven't met then that's plenty of contact. Do you want to meet?

Ragwort · 10/08/2015 08:11

Honestly, you sound like a love struck teenager, you haven't even met the guy yet and you are are stressing about whether or not he sends you a text and at what time.

If you like the initial sound of him, suggest you meet for a coffee and take it from there.

Thank goodness I am too old and uninterested to bother with OLD

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:12

I am not sure... I am not attached to him or something...
And I'm happy on my own, and he stated the same.
I never had a relationship and i dont know what to think.....

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:13

My name here says everything...

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00100001 · 10/08/2015 08:15

Ehh, I wouldn't think too much of it, how long have u been chatting?

JohnFarleysRuskin · 10/08/2015 08:15

Ah well that's more complicated...

This isn't a relationship, of course, this is texting someone...

You said you were taking OLD seriously - does that mean you do want a relationship?

Georgethesecond · 10/08/2015 08:19

If he says he's happy on his own does that mean he's just looking for sex?

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:21

yes, I do want to settle down, have a family...

Had a chance, but stepped back due to a person not realizing how rude he was...

Decided to move on and find someone... But never tried OLD before...

I know, I have trust issues as well

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Trills · 10/08/2015 08:21

I have a feeling that you are all getting the wrong end of the stick.

The OP is not asking does he like me?

She is asking does this sound like the behaviour of someone who is actually single?

I think he's married, and texts you in the morning on his way to work and at night after his wife is in bed.

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:24

@Trills

Thank you for reading my mind.

I did think that way too...

And he found an excuse to being very busy over the weekends.

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 10/08/2015 08:27

I don't think the op is asking 'does he like me' either.

But I am wondering what the point of the texting etc is.

Op, why would you trust any random on the internet? You're right to be sceptical. But be open minded too.

wannaBe · 10/08/2015 08:30

I would hazzard a guess that he's married and possibly even that he works away from home hence why he texts during the week and not at weekends.

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:43

@John, thank you.

@WannaBe I did think he is married, didn't go into details of him working away.

Just chatted with few people before and they seemed texting whenever they can. He texts only on certain time and checked my profile on Saturday 5min to midnight, but didn't leave a message.

I know now he is looking for ego boost. Madness!

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MozzchopsThirty · 10/08/2015 08:44

It's pointless to keep messaging someone on OLD
I always met people ASAP, get a much better idea face to face.
I had no time for those who wanted to msg for weeks

Trills · 10/08/2015 08:44

I think you should figure out what you want out of online dating.

Most people on there will, if they decide they like talking to you, want to meet up.

Do you want to meet someone? To go on dates? To maybe have a relationship, if you decide that you like them?

Until you know what you want, you can't message people and think do we want the same thing? because you don't know what that would be.

Myturnnow4 · 10/08/2015 08:46

Mozz I agree with the "meet early" ethos, but how do you word that without sounding desperate?

JohnFarleysRuskin · 10/08/2015 08:50

I don't think meeting early ever sounds desperate. Au contraire!

I always used to meet straight away- the last thing I would want is daily 'good morning gorgeous' texts from someone who I've never met.

If they don't want to meet they have Ishoos (usually)

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Inexperiencedchick · 10/08/2015 08:53

TBH Deep inside I don't believe I will find someone on OLD.

Just signed up to try my luck...

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MozzchopsThirty · 10/08/2015 08:54

I agree it's not desparate at all
It's a way of wheedling out the wasters and weirdos

Doesn't have to be a massive date, I'd often say meet for a quick coffee or drink for an hour

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