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husband sleeping with prostitutes

33 replies

mich1982 · 10/08/2015 03:27

Hello I found out today that my husband has been sleeping with prostitutes. Well, he says it was just massages with a helping hand at the end, but I don't believe him. We have been together 5 yrs and only married a month and he has been doing it for 6 months- even after the wedding. He blames his mental health as he thinks he is bipolar and I have been asking him to get help for years but he wouldn't see a therapist. Now he says he will see someone and wants me back, he's sorry and won't do it again blah blah.... what do I do? I have a 9 yr old son from a previous relationship but my husband has raised him as his own. I feel like my world is falling apart and if I hadn't found out how long would he have carried on for? We own our own company so we have to work together and I have to see him everyday.

OP posts:
Bleakhouse1879 · 13/08/2015 23:52

Enoughalreadyyou

"...It will definitely be full sex and it will have gone on a lot longer than he says..."

Please could you enlighten us all with what evidence you have to substantiate
these very serious allegations you have leveled at him. If that is not possible for you to do, please will you retract your statement.

over to you...

Enoughalreadyyou · 14/08/2015 00:36

Somehow I knew you were hairy handed Bleak. What evidence is there that he's not? The man is a liar and a deceiver obviously so to take his word would be plainly ridiculous.
Anyhow does it matter? He's clearly overstepped the line. I was advising OP to backtrack like I had to. They all say it was a handjob. I backtracked twenty years after my ex said the same thing. Must be a script.

ElderlyKoreanLady · 14/08/2015 00:46

Mine said he'd just sent the dick pic that I found on his phone. Turns out he was shagging his ex behind my back for over a year and telling her how big a mistake it was proposing to me and planning a child with me. Cheats habitually minimize their behaviour in order to minimize the consequences.

So where I wouldn't personally claim that it's a certainty that OP's OH only got handjobs, I'd fall off my chair in shock if that were actually the case.

Tucktalking · 14/08/2015 00:50

Agony uncle bleak where were you? People needed you on your column?

Smilingforth · 14/08/2015 06:12

How awful; stay strongFlowers

Dowser · 14/08/2015 07:19

You've only been married a month. Poor you. I'm so sorry.

I found out after my husband left that he'd been using prostitutes. In thic country an on his travels abroad.

We only ever get to know the tip of the iceberg. He's totally abused your trust and you will never be able to trust him again.

Cut him loose. You ar in for a very rough ride if you stay with this man

Bleakhouse1879 · 14/08/2015 11:31

Tuck: I have been shirking my responsibilities, I know. Full service will be resumed later today

TiredOfPeople · 14/08/2015 14:48

Cheats habitually minimize their behaviour in order to minimize the consequences

This!! ^

I'd get yourself checked out hon, whoever has touched him has also been "touching" God knows how many other men.

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