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Original poster

he says he's left her

34 replies

bluebell876 · 09/08/2015 15:20

said its over and it was awful etc etc but feels better for it and there's stuff that needs sorting (house and so on). her Facebook photo is still a photo of them though, and he said he's moved into his parents but he sent a photo that was clearly in their house. I know he could have gone back for other things etc and I don't see why he would lie as surely I'd find out (social media etc) but I have no proof that he's left her other than to take his word for it. advice please?

OP posts:
Pagwatch · 09/08/2015 15:23

What - I don't understand?

Who is she? Who is he?
Is this your partner leaving his wife - or your partner leaving an affair?

TheMarxistMinx · 09/08/2015 15:24

Does it matter if he has left her or not if he isn't with you? Do you need proof for some reason?

LIZS · 09/08/2015 15:24

Are you the ow? You sound very insecure. Don't commit to anything until there is a clear space between them . Have you met his family ?

TheMarxistMinx · 09/08/2015 15:26

Are you the OW and he has said he has left his wife? very confused!

Ilovenannyplum · 09/08/2015 15:26

If I understand correctly.....

Find someone else that isn't already married. Cheating is the lowest of the low.
Sorry OP but how can you trust somebody that's cheated on his wife and already proved himself to be a liar, I wouldn't be able to.

If I've got the wrong end of the stick, please correct me

Christophewouldgetit · 09/08/2015 15:26

So your 'D'P has left his wife for you (more like booted out when she found out) and you're asking us advice for what exactly? How to get proof he's left? How to tell if he's lying?

If he was cheating on his wife with you, you will never be able to trust anything he says.. to be able to cheat means being able to lie utterly convincingly to someone who knows you better than anyone else..

Good luck Hmm

HappyGoLuckyGirl · 09/08/2015 15:27

Well that's nice.

NickiFury · 09/08/2015 15:27

Wow, what a dramatic description. How amazingly passionate it all is!

Hope he cheats on you too Smile.

PacificDogwood · 09/08/2015 15:29

bluebelle, have you sought RL help and support?
You keep posting these v dramatic and somewhat disjointed threads, you keep getting lots of advice, but you still seem stuck in this hugely dysfunctional mess.

Cut your losses, cut him loose and learn to look after yourself, woman.

FenellaFellorick · 09/08/2015 15:30

you could always tell him to contact you when he is free to be in a relationship with you and not before.

Ilovenannyplum · 09/08/2015 15:31

Oh I didn't realise there were more dramatic posts from the OP about the same thing Hmm

NickiFury · 09/08/2015 15:32

Wait, is this the boyfriend who lives in his girlfriends, who has just had a baby, spare room and plays x box all of the live long day?

LIZS · 09/08/2015 15:33

Just seen other thread. No , he's stringing you along. There will be one excuse after another to justify contact, pics etc. The need to watch out for clues and analyse is no way to build trust between you. The "relationship" has been founded on lies, why would he need to change.

Ivegottoknow · 09/08/2015 15:37

Oh, so is he moving in with you now?

VixxFace · 09/08/2015 15:41

This can't be the one with the newborn baby? ?

I thought you wasn't contacting him any more?

goddessofsmallthings · 09/08/2015 15:46

Are you the one who's having unprotected sex with your best friend's brother whose dp has just had his baby?

Why don't you ask your bestie if he's moved back home?

Bubblesinthesummer · 09/08/2015 15:48

Are you the one who's having unprotected sex with your best friend's brother whose dp has just had his baby?

If it is you OP I thought you were having no more contact Confused

LavenderLeigh · 09/08/2015 15:49

This isn't the guy you've been flirting with by text, whose girlfriend just had a baby and who you shagged twice by accident, is it?

AlbrechtDurer · 09/08/2015 15:52

Oh ffs. Why don't you ask Jeremy Kyle, OP? Everyone here is running out of the same advice to keep giving you.

LIZS · 09/08/2015 15:55

Does op have other usernames as none of that was in the one I found!

Original poster
bluebell876 · 09/08/2015 15:57

nothing to do with someone's brother and baby?

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Lj8893 · 09/08/2015 15:58

I don't get who he and she are in your op? Maybe if your clearer you might get some better advice!

gamerchick · 09/08/2015 16:03

Nope you're going to have to elaborate on that. No clue.

Reginafalangie · 09/08/2015 16:03

Run to him OP!

Welcome him with open arms, I mean you cannot let a catch like this go.
He is so charming, trustworthy, caring, honourable.........oh no wait he is none of those things is he...why?

BECAUSE HE HAS BEEN SHAGGING YOU WHILE HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE MOTHER OF HIS NEW BORN.

Bubblesinthesummer · 09/08/2015 16:06

Does op have other usernames as none of that was in the one I found!

The brother of friend and baby thread was deleted I think