Need help...I just don't know what to do :(

[YouBastardSockBalls]

I really don't know what to do.

I have a Facebook friend who I 'met' on another forum a few years ago. Facebook friend (FBF) was going through a fairly tough time, lost a lot of money, homelessness, sofa surfing, injured etc. FBF had no living family and sounded quite depressed.
The forum had a collection (without her knowledge) and sent her abut of money to keep her going. I didn't contribute but did send a small Christmas gift in an attempt to cheer her up. I really did feel for her.

I don't post on that forum anymore (and neither does she iirc) but do have her as a friend on fb.
Her luck has gone from bad to worse and she sounds severely depressed and lonely. She often talks of suicide and I'm really struggling to cope with it. I know that must make me sound selfish but I can't help it.

She has periods of being extremely upbeat, such as a recent crowd funding effort for her career goals, but it didn't reach the target and she just seems to have spiralled downwards.

She has terminally ill pets and says often that she they die, she will go next.

It's like watching a tragedy play out and I find it so distressing as there seems to be nothing I can do to help.
I think of her all the time and dread checking Facebook in case she has posted about it again.

She writes eloquently and her pain is palpable. I wish wish wish that I could help her but how???

It's getting to the stage where I just want to click 'unfriend' so I can stop worrying about her all the time, but I'm aware of how awful this sounds.

What can I do?

[pocketsaviour]

The thread PPs refer to was deleted because the OP was asking for practical advice on how to end her life. Such posts are always deleted from MN and the poster is pointed towards relevant help.

The OP in that case had two elderly cats, and had sold her flat in order to pay for expensive treatments (chemo I think) for them. She had previously lived in a another country but had been in the UK for a while. She had wanted to train as a vet but said she ran out of money to complete the course. She did not have any children nor any blood family and seemed to be living in a local authority flat and existing on DLA.

Does this sound familiar, YouBastard?

[YouBastardSockBalls]

Oh goodness me yes. It can only be her.

If you're reading this......HOW can I help you?

[YouBastardSockBalls]

I think about her plight almost every day and find it so hard to see someone so ill.
I'm just dreading every update. But I don't want her to stop as I know how much support can be gained from posting about difficult things.

It's like watching a train speeding to crash and being able to do nothing.

[YouBastardSockBalls]

Do you think I should get this thread pulled? I don't want to make things worse.

[HolgerDanske]

I think sadly there isn't anything that can really be done for people who are suffering so badly

Agonising over others' pain doesn't help fix it for them

I really think it's important not to take on others' pain when it starts to impact on one's own mental and emotional well being.