DH is punishing me with the silent treatment

[SemperEadem83]

This situation is really getting me down. On Wednesday I spent the day with a colleague from work, we had a couple of bottles of wine and then went to the pub in the evening. While I'm at the pub, DH rang me ten times and sent me text messages asking why I was ignoring him, which I wasn't, I just didn't notice the phone going off as it was in my jacket on silent.

I'm ashamed to say that I drank rather too much and can't remember getting home, but it can't have been much after 11. When I woke up yesterday morning DH was cold to me and told me to leave him alone. He claims I got home at 4 o'clock in the morning and started giving him abuse. I tried to apologise (I can't remember having done this at all!) but he cut me off saying "don't apologise, it's pointless". He refused to speak to me at all yesterday, and stayed in bed all day. He still hasn't got up and I suspect he's deliberately punishing me. I already feel wretched enough that I might have hurt him but can't remember it.

I know I shouldn't have drunk so much and feel quite ashamed, but I hate being punished like this. I don't know what to do

Why didn't he mention this significant date was coming up earlier in the week, or tell you before you went off to meet your colleague?

I wonder if people thinking this have lost anybody recently. Both DH and I have and it's the same as birthdays, neither of us would expect the other to forget. In fact it's more important than birthdays because it shows a lack of emotional understanding and support. Not only that in the build up our demenor changes as anniversaries get closer so it twigs in the run up.

If the DH were expect her to go for a quick drink which was ok but it turned into more I really don't blame him.

That said, there's really nothing to be gained by her beating herself up over this, she's needs to think carefully about how to best minimize the damage.

If I thought I had "lost" over four hours on a five minute walk home then I would have called the police, as I would naturally assume I had been drugged and attacked. If I told my sober DH I had left the pub before last orders and he says I got home from my 5 minute walk any time after 11.10 then he would call the police.

Has he apologised for lying about when you got home and lying about how you treated him when you got back? Has he apologised for still lying? If you left before last orders and it is a 5 minute walk then how could it have been midnight? If he was worried he would have know to the minute exactly what time you walked through the door.

For me, that would be key to whether he is being reasonable or not.