Exh rape trial

[iAmSiri]

I'll try to keep this a brief as possible but my ex is in court soon charged with 2 counts of rape and 1 charge of assault by penetration.
I doubt he'll plead guilty and so I'll probably have to give evidence.
I'm absolutely terrified and not sure I can do it. I suffer with bad anxiety attacks and I just know it's going to happen on the day.

Don't know if this will be helpful, but here's a blog post about marital rape, with some good research and a strong affirmative argument for someone in your situation. Knowledge is power. good luck!

toomuchtosayformyself.com/2015/07/27/more-about-marital-rape/

BTW. from what you describe, you being asleep & with a sleeping pill or other medication, means that you were not in a position to give consent. Therefore, as I understand recent rulings, even though you did not say "No" in so many words, you did not give your consent. You couldn't have because you were asleep/not fully conscious.

Your exH assumed that because you were married he automatically had consent anytime. He assumed wrongly and committed a crime. It is against the law.

standing in court is scary but you know your telling the truth so that makes it a little easier, keep telling your self your telling the truth because you are

yr cunt of an exs legal team will be harsh to you and twist thing but , try not to get drawn in to all there guff just rember there job is to defend yr ex no matter what , just answer the questions as best you can
take as much time as you need to answer questions its not a race

do you have some thing small you can put in your hand and rub or squeeze if things get bit much it helped a friend of mine to have something to focus on she used a small shell

also go see your doctor they might give you something to take before court to keep yr nerves at bay friend had valum only few tablets to see her throu the court case which i can tell you she was believed

i belive you and am rooting for you stand calm and proud your a great person and oh so strong doing this

If the Court date you've referred to is for a plea and case management hearing and a not guilty plea is entered, the case will be adjourned for trial and it could be many months before you are required to give evidence.

Please check with the police or an officer of the Court or any support worker you may have that this is the case as nothing will be gained from psyching yourself up to give evidence only to find that the hearing is for procedural matters and will not result in a trial on that date should he plead not guilty.

In the event that he pleads guilty the Court may order various reports andit's unlikely that sentence will be handed down immediately.

Do you have a support worker/liaison officer?

Thank you all. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your words. I'm trying so hard to put it all out of my mind. Being in this limbo is torture. I often wonder why I'm doing this to myself, but when I read your posts it makes me feel stronger.

I'm off to Wales tomorrow for a camping trip with the dc. It's not much but I'm really looking forward to some time away to just have fun with my gorgeous dc.

I will let you all know how things go with the court case. And once again thank you

UpTheChimney, thanks for that link. I'm going to have a good read of that blog.

Love and thoughts. You can do this. You're a brave courageous and inspirational lady

I saw this article in Wednesday´s Guardian and thought of you. www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2015/jul/29/yes-there-is-such-a-thing-as-within-marriage

Good luck; we are all behind you and know you can do this.