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I really really like someone.............

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 08:13

He's a roofer, a pile of bricks fell on his head, he was in a coma for three weeks. Now he is slightly lost and a bit confused. Basically it has effected his health and he's quite slow at understanding. It upsets him and he finds it hard to keep up etc.....
Now the point is he keeps asking me out for a drink, and i'm not sure if i should go there, it would be hard work.I know this sounds ignorant, but i'm not convinced that he knows what he is doing. I cannot have a proper chat with him.
This is incredibly difficult to know without any medical details, he has said that it will take time for him to get back to his normal self, do you think he can or will?
Should i go on a date?

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glitterfairy · 08/05/2004 08:34

Yes. Just see how it goes you are not doing anything other than going for a drink and just make that clear, dont push it and see what you think. If it is too hard then leave it. You could end up being really great friends or it could be just that a drink. What have you got to lose? You are not being ignorant by the way and head injuries do take an enormous amount of time to recover from and lots of re adjustment. They can make a real difference to peoples personality and normality and you may not want to wait. The brain is a wierd thing and recovery can be long and painful.

glitterfairy · 08/05/2004 08:35

Ps my emails to you keep being bounced will phone.

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 08:39

Thanks Glitterfairy, so he can get better do you think? Or do i need more details off him to know that? I once said to him as a joke stop being thick, it really upset him, he said i told you i was stupid but i get better all the time.He's very self aware, and very sexy......

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 08:40

Try this [email protected]

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 08:41

and very very Scottish >melt

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Beetroot · 08/05/2004 08:46

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glitterfairy · 08/05/2004 09:13

Here here scottish and sexy thought you liked oats! What on earth are you waiting for being too internal seize the day or listen to this (abit hippy shit I know but like it) "20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the thingsd that you didnt do than by the ones that you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the tradewinds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." Mark Twain. Use it all the time!

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 09:17

Glitter fairy i so agree with you philosophy, i think it constantly, to be honest i am too like that. I have started lately though to think maybe i should grow up, i get myself in trouble constantly, honest. Just trying to be sensible.

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tigermoth · 08/05/2004 09:25

fairyfly, I have a friend who works in a brain injurines unit so if you find out more about this guy I can ask some questions about recovery.

Siezing the day yet being sensible - always a hard one. I'd go for a drink but make it clear it's a friendly one. Can imagine the attraction, though. Any chance of chatting to his friends and getting a bit more background info?

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 09:34

Tigermoth i was put on the phone last night, his friends love him to death, they were telling me to go for it. I doubt they would say anything else tbh, we are all like that with our friends. Thanks for telling me about your pal, i will ask him ( my god how rude is that)

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 10:56

Goodness me, i can't stop thinking about him......huge mistake feeling like this, i have other things i should be focusing on

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jmg1 · 08/05/2004 11:16

ff, go for a drink with him, if you never want to see him again after that what have you lost? and if you really like each other it could be the best thing that has happened for a long time.

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 11:20

Thanks jmg maybe i just will, its all a bit silly anyway, not very practical, he lives in Edinburgh

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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 12:51

I've just rang him, god he makes me laugh. He is so dry. He is a miserable sarcastic bugger. Really want to meet him now.

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wobblyknicks · 08/05/2004 13:12

Good for you ff - just go for it, see what happens and if nothing comes of it, don't worry about it. He might be the love of your life, might be horrible or he might just be Mr Right Now. You never know.

BadHair · 08/05/2004 13:26

Oh go for it, definitely. If you don't go you'll regret it, and you can always just not see him again if you don't like him.

Chocol8 · 08/05/2004 18:02

I agree with the others - definitely go for it! If you like him and he likes you, you never know what will develop!

My h had concussion for 5 months (from a 10ft aircraft box falling on his head) just before my ds was born and it really had an effect on him, he couldn't work and had to have special sunglasses for a time. He did get better though.

Tell us all about it though...and enjoy it! x

motherinferior · 08/05/2004 18:03

Yes, definitely, enjoy.
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fairyfly · 08/05/2004 18:10

He is sweetheart, he doesn't work at the moment and he needs to sleep a lot he says, good news that you get better though. I will tell you all about it of course, i was on the phone with him for an hour today, he is going to amsterdam for a week and said he will bring me back a tulip.

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Beetroot · 08/05/2004 18:12

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tigermoth · 08/05/2004 18:31

have you actually met him face to face yet?

Beccarollover · 08/05/2004 18:37

yeah, where did you meet him

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fairyfly · 09/05/2004 12:13

I met him in a Bar, i wasn't ready for anything. My x had just left. He texted me 4 months later and then again last week. I have not seen him for 10 months, he has been very persistent and remembered me. I know i fancied him at the time my head was just in a mess. I have spoke to him a couple of times on the phone this week. God knows if he is lovely . Who knows.

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glitterfairy · 09/05/2004 13:06

Hiya ff hope you had a good night out and forgot to take your mobile or did you call him and chat? How are you today?

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fairyfly · 09/05/2004 13:08

No i didn't call him, no no no, yes i had a good night, i got offered sex of a sixty year old with red wine dribbling out of his mouth and man breasts, it was very amusing.

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