My Mum recently sent me a silver pen that belonged to her late brother- all wrapped up in tissue like a 'present'. I think she just found it in her house. He died years ago. She adored him and they were very close. However, my experience with him was not so good. He was a renowned womaniser and his behaviour towards me in my teens bordered on abuse. I posted about this here some time ago and most posters agreed that although it was not quite abuse, the touching and 'cuddles' (tickling under my jumper at 16!) went beyond acceptable between uncle and niece. I hated being alone with him. I have never told my mum about that and as she is now very old I don't think there is any point. I do not want his pen though. I wanted to throw it out the moment it arrived. I haven't and just told her it wasn't something I'd use. It's been lying in my study now for months. I wondered about sending it back to her and suggesting she gives it to his son who lives near to her? (My uncle's wife died not long ago too.)