DP gone out with the kids, I'm packing his stuff while he's gone - help me keep it together

[BlueBananas]

He doesn't know I'm doing this, there will be a lot of shouting when he gets back, but I just really really can't do this anymore

I have tried I really have, but he hasn't and doesn't think he needs to, so what choice do I have?

We have 2 DC and I'm pregnant, I can't stop crying ATM and I'm going to need some serious hand holding, I don't want to tell anyone in RL because I am so embarrassed that this is happening yet again!

Someone told me a long time ago a wise older lady, that when you stop fighting it is really over.

Oh lord, poor you. I have nothing to add, but I feel sad on your behalf and wanted to send you my best. It must be very hard. In time it won't hurt so much, life has a funny way of rumbling along regardless...go with it!

Although it feels like the wrong response, just be glad that he didn't argue, shout, make a fuss, try to win you round. You know that all of that stuff would have just kept you where you are now, making it more difficult to move on, whereas this way, he has helped to move you one step further to the better life you were looking for.

Of course it could all be a game, or he's not taking it seriously, this is his way of making you feel unloved and question your decision etc. or it could be that he is genuinely at the end of his tether with it all too.

Whatever is going on to make him react (or not) it doesn't matter. You had resolved to end it and he is helping that to happen by moving out, albeit temporarily by the sounds of it.

FWIW, I was totally over my ex, hated the sight of him and couldn't wait for him to move out but it didn't stop me mourning what might have been, what I'd dreamed it would be, the future we wouldn't have. It was still the best decision I ever made.

Stay strong, don't waver because he has reacted in a way that you weren't expecting. Use his quiet compliance to help you.