I need help my wife has cheated on me

[Davemills1972]

Help please ladies I need a woman's opinion,

My wife went on holiday for her 40th and called me one night to say she fancied a threesome, in a moment of madness I said go for it just use condoms and keep it to yourself. I never thought she would do it!

When she came home the first night we have fantastic sex however the following day she confessed she had done it however with no protection!! She said she had booked an std clinic visit for 10 days time and only had sex with me so I didn't think anything was wrong. Since then we have talked and she told me she would never lie to me again. Last night she told me she had moved her appointment and then today confessed she hadn't.

I don't mind the fact she had another man/men but to do it unprotected and then sleep with me so she didn't have to confess and then 3 days later lie again, what do I do.

Help I feel awful I love her but I don't know how to go on with my life...

^so should the characters in this story.

Pushing

Have the schools broken up already?

To be honest if I were her, I would be leaving you. What sort of man claims to love someone, encourages them to have a drunk threesome and then after the fact is only concerned for his own health. Are you not concerned for hers too?

Wow - MN at it's best.
He didn't encourage here from what I can see. I don't think I've missed anything. He gave PERMISSION, not encouragement.
He said OK ONLY if she used protection and SHE didn't!! She's 40, with a life of experience not 18 and out in Shagaluf for goodness sake.

Why is this his fault? Why should he be concerned for her health?
She clearly couldn't give a flying fuck about his or her own sexual health.
She could have caught anything from other men and the first thing she does on returning is do her damnedest to pass on anything to her poor unsuspecting husband.
He needs to worry about himself right now.

If this was reversed genders we'd all be telling the woman that her husband is selfish prick and to get her arse to a GUM clinic quick sharp.
We wouldn't be asking her to be all concerned for her poor DH who might have caught something and passed it on with no regard for her sexual health.
Good grief!!!!

^ this