My first Al anon

[jugglingmonkey]

I did it, and it was okay. I didn't say much, and felt a bit of a fraud, some people there in it far worse than me.

But tonight DH has done it again. He has been out drinking all day, promised me he'd be home by 9.30pm, still no sign. I called him and he just mouthed off at me about 'hounding him with bullshit'.

This is on the back of many many many episodes of a similar nature. We have 18 month old DS and I'm pregnant. I've recently been off work with stress/anxiety.

The last time we fell out about his drinking was Tuesday.

What do I need to do next? He has clearly got no respect whatsoever for me or my boundaries anymore. Booze is priority no.1, very evidently.

Things were so bad earlier this week we even discussed separation. He came home with flowers, grovelling, 'I can't be without you'. Three fucking days later here we are.

Is a trial separation the only thing that will send a clear message?

Is he going to get support in quitting and staying sober?

..if he quits.. doesn't seem overly positive.. not very optimistic...benefit of the doubt

OP, this is your opportunity to establish how high the bar is set. Please be clear with him and with yourself, (and this is not a jokey pun): no half-measures. You must be unwavering regarding what you require, and if you are not listened to, prepare to extricate yourself. This is a critical time. Please don't tolerate half-hearted intentions -his or yours - at this time.

I wish you strength and good will.

It's not impossible - just very very difficult. Any backsliding though.........

The best of luck.