Is this the world's most cowardly shitty dumping text or what?

[harryjustshagsally]

I just got dumped, by text, by a guy I've been seeing since April. I just think it is so cowardly. I'd rather him have just said 'You are just a mid thirties single mum, I'm just not that into you' than this cowardly rubbish.

'Sorry this is a bit late. Hope things aren't too trying with the police thing. Been thinking that maybe this isn't such a good idea. Talked to X (his best mate) and he thinks maybe we are not so good for each other. You have responsibilities, and I don't want to lead you back into bad habits just cos I'm fucked up. I really like you though, and I hope you won't think I'm a total arse or anything x'x'

Ugh. I had a little cry but now I'm just thinking he is a total arse. Please tell me its him and not me. I've got some major shit going on (hence police comment) and I was quite enjoying the distraction.

THREE ouch 4 years! I haven't been the nicest girlfriend in the world to some of my ex's but at least I've had the courage and respecr to finish it in person. It's the least you can do as the dumper!

I once got dumped by text too after the same length of time. He did it with a Robbie Williams lyric too - "I've got too much love running through my veins to go to waste" or something like that!! And he hoped I wouldn't be upset. He basically made out I wasn't going to be the big love he was looking for.

I actually flipped it back at him, saying don't worry, it's fine, you were never going to be marriage material as far as I was concerned it was just a bit of fun.. He suddenly got all bothered, texting why wasn't he marriage material etc.

Hope you're ok OP. Onwards and upwards..

So cowardly. But just so you know you're not alone, here's the dumping text I got from my guy I had been seeing since April, " Sorry but I just don't have time for a relationship. Work's really picked up and I'm also seeing my children loads. I'm sure you'll meet your Mr Right but it's not me"

Wow, thanks mate! Only good thing is I know what a twat he is now rather than investing more emotionally in someone who was never really committed. Bloody hurts though!

I have a friend that got a "I've gone back to my wife" text. He'd left his wife before he'd met my friend and had lived with my friend for 5 yrs. turned out he didn't want to share his pension pot.

To the pension pot and Robbie Williams lyric. If anyone used a Robbie lyric on me they would be banished from my life forever.

I'm going to be a f/t student again iin September so I'm sure I'll have lots of distractions then. Just bummed because I was enjoying the summer romance

Yep a weak man ...move on..focus on yourself ..he really isn't important to you or your life ...

OP, I love how the rest of your life sounds! A f/t Masters course at university in September -- just read that aloud. Doesn't that sound amazing?? It really does. :)

The universe is clearing this idiot out of your life before you start your wonderful new phase in Sept. You have a month to forget about him. Ready, steady, go!

PS your reply was great. Short, but scathing. I almost cheered.

I think you are being too hard on the person.

The relationship has only been going on for a couple of months rather than a 10 year marriage.

At least he's told you he wants to end it rather than drifting away or just disappearing. The 'mate says' is probably a nice way of saying he does not like you or see much of a future.

After reading this last week I'm gonna say none of the texts on this thread are anyway near this (although anyone quoting a Robbie lyrics in any context should be shot anyway)

I was once dumped by e-mail with the words:

"Oh and my other bit of news is that I've now got a girlfriend."

I had thought that was me. Particularly when he was snogging me.

The mushroom cloud took some time to dissipate!

pocket I love her response. The guy has his head so far up his arse!

here the problem I had wasn't that he's ended it, it was the text message I'm pissed off with. If he can have sex with me regularly since November and be my boyfriend for the past 3 months can he not just say 'no thanks' to my face? And take responsibility for his decision instead of blaming it on his friend. It is pathetic behaviour and I value myself enough to know I don't deserve it.

Im a bit confused by 'sex since November, boyfriend since April bit'

Then you say 'value myself enough to know I don't deserve it'

????

Look, it sounds like you've had a fuckbuddy/affair/casual shag with someone, then tried to raise the relationship to some official basis and then take umbrage when he decides he was probably only in it for the sex.

You'd be a better trying casual dating for a few months than casual sex.

pocket she is a better woman than me. I'd have been hard pressed not just to reply "Sorry to hear about your erectile dysfunction"

Totally at him just assuming she wanted to see him again, let alone sleep with him or marry him.