Lost and confused with Husband

[Em4891]

Hi all,
I'm at a complete mess at the moment .
I have been with my Husband for 6 years now ( married for 1.5)
We have had our ups and downs like any couple but , I'm reaching the point where I feel he hates me or something as he has no drive at all when it comes to supporting me and us working together in our everyday life as a couple.
Many things have bought this to a head but, the one thing I am hurt over is his lack of support since me giving birth to our first child only 6 weeks ago.
He took 4 weeks off altogether and I honestly thought he would of shown more care for me and helping me etc but, the was the one laying in bed and I was doing majority of the baby care as well as taking care of running our home and looking after my daughter from a previous relationship and walk our two dogs .
Since he has gone back to work he barely gets up to do anything to help with his new son or help anyway at all but, always has time to put in at least 2 hours a day on his ps4 and even longer when he's off.
I am extremely struggling now as my health is now suffering by lack of sleep and energy . I have told him several times I need him to help more buy, he doesn't listen .
I would just like other people's opinion as I feel I'm always the bad one. I appreciate I'm on maternity at the moment but, I do feel he should help me as he works 10-6 am and is having average of 10 hours sleep a day . Any advice I would be grateful for .

Will your mum come round to your house and help you?
You need some support and he is NOT providing it and NEVER will.
He needs to go and you need someone there when you ask him to leave.
Pack his stuff up now and get him gone and get some loving family support.
You need it and you must ask for it.
Fuck him and what he wants.
That's no longer your concern. You concern is you and your DC.
If you were my DD going through this on your own and not asking for help, I would feel like I'd failed as a mum to you and I would be mortified.
Don't keep her out. You need her and she wants to support you.

You need to leave this boy! He is not good for you this is emotional abuse! I'm so sorry you are going through this

I'm worried I'm letting everyone down . If I split with my oh this will be my 2nd marriage down the pan . 1st one was full of abuse and this one is cus he won't pull his weight .
All I feel is there's something wrong with me .
I truly believe now that this is all my fault .
I truly thought my oh of different and would treat me well, instead I'm in this relationship whew I feel like I'm married to a 27 year old boy rather than a man .
My Mum and Dad will feel so let down as they've helped us out so much and now this has happened .

Your mum and dad will feel more let down if you do not take action and get out of this relationship.
I would be horrified if my DD felt she couldn't turn for me to help when needed. You have your DC to think of too.
This man is a lazy twat-do yourself a favour and get rid

Oh bless you - he's done a real number on you hasn't he.
Do NOT think for a minute you've let anyone down.
If you stay you will be letting yourself and DC down. That is all you need to remember.
So what if you have 2 failed marriages?
Don't stay in a shit relationship for the reasons you state.
You stay in relationship because you love each other, you feel cherished and loved and looked after. You feel like an equal and supported. This is so far off of what a relationship should be it's quite frightening.
Please please please let your parents know what is going on and that you need their help and support.
Do NOT let him do this to you.
It would really help if you contacted Womens Aid to talk this through with them. They can help you see it for what it is.

As the mother of an adult dd, I would much prefer her to have five failed marriages than for her to shut up and put up, especially where my dgd is involved.

The only person who can be said to be letting everyone down is him and he's also letting himself down unless, of course, he was raised to be an idle abusive twunt or has always aspired to be one.

As for two marriages 'down the pan', meh, learn from it and don't rush to tie the knot with Mr Right No.3 in case you end up with another right arsehole who's not fit to be a parent.