Boyfriend has porn images in photo album on his phone

[Thislife1]

I was using my boyfriend's phone yesterday and noticed that in between the photos he's taken of me and his 9yo son there are lots of porn images of women. I know that he looks at porn when I'm not there, and I'm ok with that, but I felt shocked seeing these images in his photos. They're not particularly graphic, mostly naked muscular women, but I can't understand why he has them in his photos. He's not secretive with his phone and both his son and I use it sometimes, which makes it seem worse! He also has quite a few 'friends' on Facebook who are female body builders/muscly. I'm not worried that he's chatting to them, but it does make me feel a bit weird that he needs to look at them. He's an incredible partner and Dad and I feel completely loved, respected and desired by him in every other way so I don't want to make a big issue out of it. But it just feels wrong. Should I say something?

I was intrigued by the penis in a shoe picture, fugghetaboutit, and had to google it.

Not an image I'd save in the wank bank, mind.

Agree with Offred on this one.

And I'm not sure why this makes him a bad dad either, as said on page 1.

Number six!

God, my eyes

I was torn between No.8 The Trendy Wedge Sandal, and No.19 The Breezy Summer Wedge, it sort of looks like an actual foot, with only one massive toe.

...and a stubbly heel.

"Number six! God, my eyes"

Number 6 is going to be unhappy that someone has emptied the water out of the pool at the foot of the slide.

that is a very long and thin specimen

scary stuff....I reckon it could look round corners like a periscope

Sort of like Lowly Worm then, AF?

like a triffid

ThisLife, just to share my thoughts/offer another perspective on the whole porn thing:

• I think you CAN be a feminist and enjoy porn.

• I think porn can safely be enjoyed in moderation... what's wrong with enjoying seeing naked bodies or watching people have sex (as long as they have consented to you doing so)?

• However, I think page 3 is absolutely disgusting. It might be only boobs, but it's a fucking family newspaper, publicly perpetuating the objectification of women and influencing the masses, including children. It's completely and utterly wrong and shameful.

• ...But I think looking at sexy images/videos in private, or with your partner as part of foreplay or whatever (if that's your thing) is OK.

• I think you can disagree with the misogyny and exploitation in pornography generally, but still find yourself turned on by it (despite the dichotomy/moral dilemma). Unfortunately we suffer from lack of choice a bit there... porn isn't generally made by feminists (sadly... perhaps I should start something up in this regard!).

• I think you should share your concerns with your husband - calmly, not in an accusatory way, just say you want to talk about it, so you can both understand each other's point of view and perhaps reach some kind of compromise. Let him know it makes you feel uncomfortable, and listen to his side of things.

• I think your other half should make absolutely sure your child is not going to stumble across these images. It could be very confusing for him. I would feel awful if my partner had these images on his phone and my child had access to them, I'd want to ensure this didn't happen! Simply because children are highly impressionable (they are subject to enough bad influences from the media... they shouldn't have it from their parents too, who are meant to guide them and be their moral compass).

This ^ is all coming from someone who considers herself a feminist :)