The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Soaking Up The Warm Sunshine, Instead Of The Warm White Wine!

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Hi, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

A place for pouring out your heart without being judged, mostly because a lot of us have been exactly where you are right now, or somewhere similar.

We've been around for a while, so there's not much that we've not seen..... or heard.... or been through ourselves.

Some of the Babes are newer to the Bus, some of the Babes have been here on dear old "Gerald" (The name this Bus was given by one of the Babes, I forget who now!I suspect IsinDe or Silver) for a little while longer!

EVERYONE is welcome here. Drinkers, those who are complete non drinkers, and those who are somewhere in the middle of all of the above. :)

Some Babes are in control of their drinking, some not so much. It's dreadfully hard some days, days when there is nothing going around your head except thinking that you MUST have a drink and you sit there trying to work out when, what time you can have that first mouthful of ice cold poison.

Whatever your goal here, or why you're here, we'll all help you along the way, YOUR WAY.

There will be one of us on here that can relate to your life story as if it were a mirror they were looking at, someone to hold your hand if you want it, catch you if you fall, which you may or may not. Positive thinking, just One Day At A Time.

No one Babe is better than any other, we've all been addicts. We've all suffered, yes some more than others but it's not a competition (and no-one gets turned away) but if you rack up shed loads of sober days, you will be a winner on the thread!!

So, if you want somewhere safe to sit and enjoy the warming summer sun, come find a seat, have a chat or just sit and listen to the rest of us yakking on!!

Nice to meet you :) all.

Also, here is the latest thread -

THE LATEST THREAD WE'VE SHARED OUR STORIES AND EXPERIENCES ON

And this is the very first thread -

AND THIS THREAD, THIS THREAD IS EXTREMELY SPECIAL BECAUSE THIS IS WHERE THE JOURNEY STARTED, AND HAS SINCE EVOLVED OVER THE LAST SIX YEARS

Hope to chat soon, Mousey x

Welcome back Pink, I hear ya re picking up that first drink, it just sets off something that makes it difficult to stop!

Welcome Ilovejumpers

Weird, my post vanished!
In short, I wasn't a drink. WANT. I feel weirdly justified too as I didn't yesterday, but then realise that's ridiculous!

nancery - distract, distract, distract! Can you go for a walk, go to bed, have a shower, paint your nails, build a rabbit hutch - anything to take your mind off it?

The want will pass, I promise.

Am hiding upstairs! Am very tired so am hoping my lime and soda with the dash of angustoura bitters will follow it instead. I still want one but hopefully it will start to fade.
I need to go downstairs and start tea now. And there is open wine in the fridge.
Wish me luck!

Hold out nancery. I purposefully didn't buy wine in sainsburys today, other alcohol here but wine is the only one that I can't resist. It's on my mind though, and it's only day 1! Had a good day and keep thinking of the positives of even a week of no wine. Try and break the habit and vicious circle. I read an earlier post about a aa saying, HALT, hungry, angry, lonely and tired. This makes so much sense to me. My OH away at work all week hence I have no one to rein me in. Taking care of the 2 children plus job, housework blah de blah, yes I do arrive home all of the above and when kids have been fed, sitting down with a glass of wine signals jobs done, time for me. Except it rarely stops there. Quite often skip dinner as appetite gone once I've had a glass of wine. Anyway, I'm sat with a lime and sparkling water, surprisingly nice! Thanks for the idea further up post. Will go and watch tv in bed early I think. Today pretty easy, it's tomorrow I'm worried about. DH arrives home which usually signals drinks, the afree work Saturday equals drinks, Sunday roast ditto. I will be happy if I can express some control at this stage, it will be an improvement. Baby steps. I intend to the do mon-fri next week no wine and see how this goes. Good luck with your evenings all.

Shite.
Combination of full on day, coming back to a tip of a house and an oblivious DH and frustration over our house move (long story but trying to move, been going on a year, lots of falling through etc)

It tastes AMAZING though.
Will not neck the bottle though, am thankfully very tired so hopefully won't be inclined. Prob back after dinner to let off steam re DH

indie it is lovely though isnt it?
nancery I'm drinking tonight too but lots of babes out there might be fighting the wine witch hard and your pic might just tip them into drinking. Have you got a pic of some opal fruits
pink!!!!!! So glad to see you again, but not, if you know what I mean. You are a bus sucess story. Nothing will take that away from you. What triggered the "relapse"?

I had one, am now on milk! And a shortbread biscuit!
Sorry if my wine pic triggered anyone, I didn't think.

No worries nancery and well done on just having one!

Here you go! m.youtube.com/watch?v=ll1FipIKuws
Disaster here as I've run out of lime to put in my soda water! Not sure how I drank all that, it was double concentrated too. Maybe that's a new dependency to add to my ever growing list!

Ooh, craving an opal fruit now...

Strangely me too! That roof rack on the car is a blast from the past!

Sorry - Ive missed registration for a week. Amiok Jumper welcome. I'm very new here too - but this is a good place to be.

I've drank and not drank over the last week. Overall I'm proud - went out for the first meal in I reckon 20 years where I didn't drink. Was super proud of myself. But I've also been the last one awake drinking whisky this week too. Big love to all babes.

Hope everyone had a good eve.... I feel brilliant this morning for no wine last night. Slept surprisingly well....next dilemma is whether or not to go out this evening. I know I'll drink, be cross with myself tomorrow then drink the rest of the weekend. If I call it off though my freind will be pissed off. I'm not telling any RL folk at the moment how I feel/what I'm doing, need to keep it to hear right now. Kumamon, congrats on a meal out not drinking, that's strong ????...... Have a good day all.

Hi jumpers well done! Your life sounds very similar to mine including the DH working away. I'm not talking in RL about this either - I'm afraid I would use it to derail myself eg if somebody said you're not that bad everybody does it I'd agree and reach for the bottle. In reality I know it needs to change. The strange thing is it seems like it MIGHT be doable. This is day 7 for me. Also for me the longest since my last pregnancy and he's 7!
What do you want to do tonight as opposed to what you think you should do? I think it was Venus who suggested having the first 2 drinks soft drinks and then the "need" subsides Is there an option of going and not drinking? Can you plead medication or a lot to do tomorrow? (not that either of those things have ever stopped me drinking) it sounds like maybe you don't want to drink tonight so I wonder how you could make sure you get that outcome?

Hi kumamon and well done,nomore you are doing brilliantly.
I stopped at half a bottle last night rather than a while one so that's something I suppose.
hope are you okay?
khalisi check in babe
faireif you are lurking our thoughts are with you
All other babes, have a good one

That's just what I need to hear no more, that your on day 7 and feeling it's do able. My youngest is 7 too! You know what, I don't want to drink tonight, because I already look and feel better, I have no doubt I'll de rail at some point but while it feels right I don't want to go out. No option to not drink, it's a one on one with BF. The plan was made ages ago to GO OUT DRINKING! I've sown the seed that I have period pains ( it's true but would not normally stop me) so will decide later today. Will keep you posted! Good work Ma on half bottle.

Morning babes, Day 6 here and today I will not drink. My goal this weekend is to have a somewhat productive weekend instead of drinking tonight, feeling like shit tomorrow and eating all in front of me, then deciding Sunday should be a lazy day coz I am back to work the next day.
However I won't project

Waves to all babes x

I'm joining. Wonderful date the other night ruined by my drinking. Day 1 is today. Just how bad is Diet Coke?

Hi all, I'm OK Ma thanks for asking. Been up and down, drinking then not drinking, sanguine then panicky, happy then depressed. Like you Ma the work situation is hanging by a thread. Need to give potential future employers an update today only got inconclusive update from current employers yesterday. Not sure I can leave early enough and if I lose this chance it will be by a matter of weeks, after almost a year of uncertainty. Have put in an early release request as a matter of faith so if this doesn't pan out I am utterly f*cked financially. Waiting for a phone call now. Sorry for the me, me, me post ... Have been lurking but stayed away as nowt to add...

Hello babes and thanks for the welcome back

Ma I'm embarrassed to admit that it was as simple as a reunion with an old friend who I hadn't seen for nearly 20 years. I was in her home city and she booked us into this champagne bar. I think deep down I knew it was a bad idea but it had been SO long AF that I thought I would be able to do it once and then go back to being AF. It has been such a hard lesson to learn, but the lesson is (for me) don't stop stopping!! If that makes sense.
It's been horrible to feel all the old feelings of being below par and knowing I need to stop again, but somehow not doing it. It makes even less sense when I have had that long period of being AF so I know it is doable but I still don't do it!!

Anyway sorry for the long ramble. Yesterday was day one and I already feel better but have a fear deep down that I'm not going to manage it.xx

Welcome SRTA. Do you want to tell us a bit more? We have all had that morning after feeling so we can relate! Diet coke isn't great if I'm honest, could you buy a nice posh fizzy drink and put it in a wine glass? Then you get the ritual but not the alcohol x

Morning! I had one drink last night but that's all, if I could do that every night I wouldn't be on this thread but unfortunately that isn't the case. DH is out tonight so am going to refrain (then at least only one of us will be hungover tomorrow!) I too, like many of you, can end up drinking far too much 'as its Friday' then eating like a pig Saturday, then drinking again Saturday night and so on. No wonder I need to lose weight!

Ridiculous as it sounds, those of you on day 7 sound positively heroic which is bonkers really. It's not that long at all but it seems it to me