My H has been in a huff with me all weekend for reasons I wasn't sure off.
I didn't bother asking as his moods are very up and down so this can be regular, at least once a week, he goes in a mood then snaps out and expects everything to go back to normal.
Anyway last night he said to me he finds me to be very distant and not so lovey dovey etc with him. I tried to explain that the constant moods and silences really get me down to the point where once I would have gone out my way to appease him, now I just don't bother.
His mood turns out to be over me announcing a quiz night with work colleagues, then a friends surprise birthday party from work, he said I just put these 2 things on him?? He also brought up the fact I wouldn't lend him £1500 last year and felt this belittled him??
He is a everynight drinker (beer) and smokes hash every day/night, I reckon a lot of his swings come from the fact he can not cope with life without chemicals or alcohol! He categorically told me last night this is something he will not stop.
Im not sure how we can get around this? It is like he is blaming me for what I think he is the one causing the problems. Maybe I have become a bit distant he makes it quite hard to love him at times as he treats me like crap.
I have actually noticed a pattern of others posters on here having the same problem through drink and drugs and like most he can be a good H and father but this is usually when things are going his way and after hash.