New Relationship Orgasm

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Shame on me I've faked all orgasms in past relationships, once you start it's hard to do a U turn. In new relationship now, don't wanna go down that path again. But we've had sex several times and not cum... how do you start? Or does everyone put up with orgasmless sex? Am I a prude? lool?

I was very lucky in that my first "proper" boyfriend was very big on giving me orgasms. I showed him what was what first, obvs. That sort of set up the expectation for me that it was normal.

JohnFarleys, honestly I don't know why I find it awkward but I do. However I'm determined to change this with the new one.... liquid.... yes I'm gonna report back with how it goes (seeing him tonight) , so we should make a pact.. reckon it'll be more difficult for you tho as he will be like 'but this always worked before!' I have a bit of a clean slate with this one. Tall, I'd be embarrassed at my age to say noones ever made me come, plus if he met kids dad he might snigger! Lois!!!!!!

If you felt like verbalising it, you could always say something like- I really like doing it with you...but I still feel a bit shy...can you help me feel a bit less shy...?"

Otherwise just take the lead...

some tips here...

Holly smoke what a fun read this thread is. Don't fake your orgasm, he will love being shown how to make you cum no matter how long it takes you. My wife doesn't cum every time and never through penetration, only ever with clitoral stimulation before, during or after intercourse. Hope this helps.

Yes where is the new sex board?

No I don't ask to be finished off, I need to before he does as he's done in after and good for nothing!

Joysmum, apart from a cuddle, but I agree before he cums as after isn't the best time for him.

I must be unusual in that I only orgasm during penetrative sex. If dp doesn't 'get' me before he does (not that often), I just tell him never mind he'll get me next time! Sometimes I feel a bit miffed but get over it pretty quickly as don't want to make him feel bad!

ok so no action for me tonight!

I can't find the sex board either. Someone said it was under body
And soul but can't see that either.

Click on Talk (top left)

Scroll down

Click on Body and Soul

Click on Sex

Is the sex board a sort of governing body?

...Or for professional regulation and standards?

Out - Not sure if you're still following this thread, but I am like you in that, up until meeting my partner 7 months ago, no man had ever made me orgasm. It had been my own doing previously. This guy is really keen to please though. He literally just wants to give oral ALL of the time (he's pretty amazing). After not orgasming as a result of a partner's work for so long, I'd kind of got it out of my head that it'd ever happen, but with him, it's totally different.

For me, an orgasm is very mental. If I'm thinking of it or begging it to come, it just won't. I have to clear my mind. One day, DP said it'd really turn him on if I watched porn whilst he gave me oral. BAM! The orgasm was the most intense orgasm I've ever experienced, literally in my whole life. Watching the video allowed me to clear my mind fully, not even think orgasm was an option, my mind was just focussed on watching this video. And ever since, he's always given me mind blowing orgasms.

Could this happen for you? Maybe watch something to talk your mind off willing an orgasm to come?

If you can bring yourself to climax, so can he. Faking it (I hold my hand up) and porn have given men the impression that our orgasms are two a penny, they aren't and they need cultivating - foreplay is a must.

Lose the inhibition and become your own sexual advocate.