Hi Everyone - I am in a terrible dilemma and need some advice. I started a new relationship a year ago after my divorce.
We have lots in common and similar interests. Unbeknownst to me, he has Type 1 Diabetes. On our second date, he had a hypo. I had no idea what was wrong and called an ambulance. Since then , this has happened on many occasions although if I'm around, I know the signs and can usually do something to avoid him going unconscious.
The illness was not a problem as far as I was concerned. Then he had a hypo while driving and lost his licence. So for the past year, I have been getting up an hour earlier to drive him to work. I now am out of the house for 12 hours a day (I leave at 5.45am). I work full - time and the extra driving and long days have been really hard.
I tried to tell him I was finding it hard and could we find another way but he shouted at me and said his life is terrible and he needs me to do this or he can't work etc. I used to see my teenage son in the morning but no more.
Anyway, at Easter , after we had been arguing because i picked him up late after my work meeting overran, he finished with me by text. Two days later, he changed his mind. He has never said why he changed his mind but I suspect it's because he needs me to continue to drive him everywhere. We live in a rural area with little public transport but he refuses to use the bus anyway.
I often cook for him, clean his house, run errands for him. On my birthday he said he couldn't get me a present as he can't get to the shops.
He now needs an urgent, major operation and I feel like I am trapped as it would be callous and cold - hearted to leave him now.
We hardly ever do anything fun together anymore as he is too busy working. I can't remember the last time. He hardly ever calls me, unless he wants me to do something, i feel i make all the effort. The only time I see him is when he needs me to do something for him or I get a phone call from the hospital.
I don't want to be in this relationship anymore as it is draining and exhausting, but I don't see how I can end it when he has this major operation to face. He doesn't speak to his family so he only has me to support him.