Choco rises...

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I have no idea if anyone will remember my epically miserable divorce related posting back in 2012. But just in case anyone does, I wanted to give an update. It's been 3 years. I am now very divorced, Bean arrived safe and well and turns 3 in two weeks, Sprout is in school, nearly 5.

I did train as a life coach and founded a parent coaching practice in 2013, working with families affected by domestic abuse. My life experience has become an asset now! Most incredibly though, I met my gorgeous DP 18months ago, in the most obscure place ever, when I wasn't remotely interested in looking for a partner... on Friday he asked me to marry him and I said yes.

I am posting this in part to let anyone going through a hideous breakup right now know that when people tell you 'this too shall pass', it's true. It does. Don't hold on to anything that is dragging you down... just let go. There is something better waiting for you on the other side

Also, I wanted to say to all who hand-held and looked after me and my DS's through that terrible time, thank you and you and you and you. You gave me back my faith in the good in people. You told me life would be better, and you were right. God bless Mumsnet. x

That is so uplifting. Thank you for coming back to update and all the very very best to you and DP and the 4 kids between you - you sound like you'll be a lovely blended family and excellent step parents to each other's kids. Go you!

Oh I remember your thread choco. So pleased to red that thjngs are working out well for you. I'm not surprised though, you always came across as a strong person

Hello Choco what wonderful news - I often think of you and what happened to you, and I can honestly say that your news has made my day.

I remember you too. Glad to hear your news.
Best wishes.

You have become one of my best friends since that first thread three years ago and have given me and so many others so much advice & support & inspiration! You deserve this!!!

thank you! midwife I love you!!

Sorry evilstepmama most definitely NOT totga. Total stranger to me until Feb last year. He's a northern lad from the toon, and I'm a southern fairy from the shire it's a marriage made in heaven!

Choco I remember you. At the time I was also pregnant, coping with my DH's affair, and going through a divorce. I got support from your positivity.

I am so glad you have made a new much happier life for yourself and found someone who deserves you.

I remember your posts, Choco and how helpful and generous you were to other people going through stuff, even though you were going through so much yourself.

I was so pleased to read the update. That is brilliant news, and I hope your dh (to-be, but let's not quibble) makes you every bit as happy as you deserve to be. Happy hand-fasting.

I have NC but I remember your posts. And your dignity, strength and epic mothering.
Congratulations on making the life you deserve.