Right... I started that thread about couples talking to each other... and it seems everybody is chatting away merrily all the time...

[emkana]

... and I have to say I wish I hadn't started that blooming thread now.

Sigh... do all you people have these wonderful relationships? Even after many many years together? What is the secret I ask you?

And what do you talk about all the time???

my dh and i hardly 'talk' we pass comments about the children, odd arguement but not much else these days

emkana

Dh and I talk about all sorts - the poor state of grammar on news programmes, why we love/hate particular adverts, funny things the kids have said/done, plans for the day/next day, what we have read on a forum that day, what we think on subjects sparked off by something we have read/heard, gossip from the village, thoughts about what we are going to do in the future ...

Not sure if that is helpful for you to hear really. I'm sorry you are feeling down just now

Im not on that thread. 12 years and we barely speak these days.

we some times dont talk alll evening
doesn mean you dont love each other

yes, I think I do have a wonderful relationship (and I am very grateful for it and constantly remind myself how lucky I am) but we haven't been together that long, only 6 years. And we had a row on the phone at lunchtime if it helps! And carried it on once we got home, for extra points! But it's sorted out now, thank goodness.

What do we talk about? Everything, nothing, trivia, children, films, books, sex, people we know, people we don't, any old crap basically. Where's the thread, did everyone say they talked a lot?

we hardly talk at all

I'd like to get a laptop and then I could MN from the sofa while he watches telly and we could pass occasional witty comments

we always talk properly over meals out - which we now NEVER have

not on the other thread either. we often don't talk - but i don't feel sad about it, and i don't feel uncomfortable being together and quiet - we def love each other, and i might even say are in love

Well, we argue a lot.

Does that count?

No, at home we often don't talk overly much. But we do when we go out. We went out for dinner on Saturday and it was so fab!

dh has just got a laptop so he can ignore me from the other end of the sofa rather than the office room...
(actually we do talk as well but we do look like a pair of twunts with our his'n'her matching laptops.)

emkana, thinking back to that thread, I think it is the sort of thing that people (like me ) are drawn to - not as a boasty thing really, but just because of the way the title and OP was worded. Consequently it gives a pretty skewed picture of how many couples talk. That is absolutely not a criticism, just an observation btw.

yeh I mean look we are all miserable non-talking couples on THIS thread

Feel a bit better now.

It's that MN thing in a way isn't it where you feel sometimes that everybody is having this utterly fantastic life with top-notch food (organic of course), a busy social life with a wide circle of very good friends, a happy relationship, clever, beautiful and lovely children...

Hey, right now I'm here, he's on Playstation and dd is whingeing and whining about not wanting to go to sleep so it's not all deep joy all the time in this house, I can assure you.

yah well chez morningpaper, I am MNing and really need a bath because I SMELL, my children are in the middle of their evening-screaming-sessions, DH is at college and I haven't cleaned up from dinner yet.

It's all so DREAMY

dh is out watching the football, he didn't do any of the tidying up after dinner and only helped a wee bit with putting dd to bed... kept pointing at his watch and saying 'i've got to be away in 15 minutes' as if it was a meeting with Kofi Annan he was attending.

i am looking at the crud-covered highchair as i type...

goodness, you can't be in conversation all the ^time!

surely it's about comfortable with each other. If you have a tale to tell, a piece of news to discuss, a family matter fair enough, if not, chill.

its not all roses here either, dh in brasil - oohhh, thats why we never talk - he's never here!!!!

dh is watching fifth gear with ds1

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I think the sign of a good relationship isnt just about how much you talk to each other and how interesting those conversations are. It's also being comfortable with the silences, and also knowing that often, you dont need to say something because your partner knows you so well.

I think me and DP do pretty well - been together over 11 years now. We talk about anything and everything. We can sit together and not talk all evening and feel completely comfortable too. I dont feel like we are 'missing' anything. However, we bicker here and there - have the occasional huge row, and only last night he nagged me because he was talking to me and I was too busy watching Lost and MNing and not paying him attention

I am going to wander off now and find that thread.....

we rtend to save ours upa dn then go out and have a good yak
i htink removing yourself form the mundaun e istO bE RCOMMENDED

ditto cod.

friday case in point...went out and it was like when we first met (8 years ago).

tonight, i asked dh what was going on and he said ....oh, you know the usual...but when we go out (we try to go out just the two of us at least once a week) we can't stop talking....v important

yes you need to go out imo
nto talk abotu if you haev put the dishwasher on adn can you pleas enot splash cofee granules all oevr hte wall by the dishwasher and ds1 need £4 fro cubs on frinday

We talk best when we are walking, rather than in a restaurant or pub, so if we have some child-free time we often go for a long walk along the river or something. Conversation seems to happen then.

But we've just had another unsatisfying chat with him in Bucharest and homesick, and me fed up with dripping taps and niggly children. Most nights he is watching TV and I am reading or on Mnet/other forums.

Honestly,

yes phoen when he in hotal dire
phone when he on wa hoem and bored good

then you sit in silence hwne he gets home as you haev exchanged all news ime