Tight boyfriend

[pleb123]

I have been with my partner for 3 years. We live apart and have grown up children. He has a bad hip and as a result no interested in me sexually, despite my trying to talk about it and state that I am happy for intimacy with intercourse. He agrees, but has not touched me for months. We always take it in turns to pay when we are out and I always feel awkward as he comments on the price of everything. I have only ever eaten steak when its my turn to pay. I am starting to resent him as he is in my home most nights and this afternoon, due to my boiler playing up decided to light a fire, as I have no paper asked him if he had a £1 to buy one - he refused. I think I must be mad and worth more than this. He is a good man, but feel after he stormed out because of this, that maybe its time to call it a day. We went abroad last year, with family, 9 in total and I was embarrassed by his mean attitude. we have similar incomes, I am a home owner and he rents. Am I being selfish?

So agree with the dignified silence, people absolutely hate being ignored and not then being able to have their say.

Goddess: am loving your TAT (tightarsehole tax). I know a few who must be in this tax bracket !

I think some people are more generous that others , I saw a mate who I e not seen in 18 months a few week back he treated me to a pint n a burger n we had a gossip , same with some one else who I've known ages I was looking at a dress in town and she said ill buy it , I refused but it was a nice thought.

Yes Jesy, you are right. I am very generous, have worked hard all my life and always paid my way and more. I am also very affectionate, so being starved of intimacy is awful. I have not contacted him, nor have I heard. It is so difficult as I pass his house on the way to and from work and sometimes we pass, so felt uncomfortable driving through his village in case I saw him, then as his car wasn't home, stressed the rest of the way in case he was coming the other way!! Pathetic I know......

O honey, you sound far too nice for your own good - any other woman would relish the opportunity to pass him on the road and give him the finger a filthy look!

Why are you fretting over this mean-spirited and mean-minded twat after he's treated you so badly?

There are so many generous and decent men who would love to have an affectionate and kind-hearted woman like you in their lives.

All you have to do is get yourself out there and there'll be no shortage of takers but in order to attract a man who will value you, you first have to value yourself.

Oh gosh. Get rid. If you have been treated like this before, well done for recognising the pattern. Please move on and break that pattern. Your next relationship could be so different

OP you sound lovely, and a very fair person albeit one who puts others before herself a bit too much. But...

For fuck's sake - you surely don't need a man THAT much that you will put up with this idiot? Please shake yourself out of desperado mode. Get rid and go out and have some bloody fun...all this handwringing over a fool

Not meaning to sound harsh but it really, really gets my goat at times when idiots who arent even TRYING, get to be with women who spend time umming & aahing about their useless asses. He's a prick - stop wasting your time and allowing him to waste it too. Its ridiculous. Plenty more fish in the sea..and they're not all piranhas

Two bad hips and three bad knees between us hasn't prevented us, and we're in our 60s.

But the meanness would be a deal breaker for me.
Get rid.

That's good to hear, Lady, but only thing wrong with this tightwad's hip is that his wallet has fused to it and medical science hasn't yet found a way to remove it

I hope you will give him the finger if you happen drive over past him, pleb - it's no more than he deserves and it's considerably more generous gesture than any he's made to yoiu.