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10 things you shouldnt say after rowing with your wife B4 HANGING UP THE PHONE............

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 22:49

my dh just called and we rowed............he said i make him feel like shit (after i told him i thuogh him tiling the kitchen was a crap idea.....), then said he wwas getting the train and had to go.......then walked back into the pub with his work colleagues and said:

She can just suck my cock.......

I'll be divorced by the morning........

I wouldn't cheat.....BUT......

She can have the house & the kids......

We'll be in seperate beds tonite......

I'll be sleepnig on alexs' sofa.........

Let's have a (£50) bet that i'll be divorced tomorrow......

Haven't had a leg over for 4 months......

I'll just say I was pissed and agree with her.........

FUCKING BITCH..........

so i shall be locking the door, he wont be coming in and he can go to hell........

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 22:50

p.s. we shagged 3wks ago, ive been ill and hes not exactly making me feel great either.......

(just had to clarify!!!)

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charliecat · 09/11/2006 22:51

Does he know you heard him?

maggiesmama · 09/11/2006 22:51

you gonna tell him you heard?

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 22:52

i emailed him and 2 of his colleagues with the list and title.................im a bitch!

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Fattymumma · 09/11/2006 22:53

its very cold though....leave him a blanket

chubbleigh · 09/11/2006 22:53

All that over tiles???

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 22:56

i am ill, my 2 sons are ill and 1 had acroup attack tonite, he said hed come home and i said no, dont worry. at 9pm boys werent settled so i called and said i was going to bed, he said ok and hes leaving now. at 10pm i called to ask him where he was (i.e. on the train etc) and thats when he went off into one..........hes v v drunk, and i was being blamed for making him feel like shit over the tiling, and he said hes had no life since the kids were borrn (eldest is 3, ds2 is nrly 2) ive been out 3times since boys were borrn, hes out with work at least once a week and lots mor now its coming upto xmas.......

and no, i wont be leaving hima blanket, and they all have blackberrys, so will be reading the message now!

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 23:00

i just called him and told him to chk his blackberry..........and said he really should make sure he hangs up the phone in future.........

shall await the fireworks.............

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colditz · 09/11/2006 23:01

No don't leave him a bloody blanket, what a twat, I agree with you whole heartedly.

colditz · 09/11/2006 23:01

Keep us updated, won't you!

hoolagirl · 09/11/2006 23:01

Ohhhh my my my!
I presume he didn't disconnect the call and you weren't meant to hear this.
All guys mouth off to their mates, makes them feel big!
He definetly will feel like shit now he knows you heard him !
Have no other comment on the rights or wrongs of this, just and more

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 23:05

in an ideal world, i wouldnt have heard (from his point of view) but he didnt hang up............and in an ideal world, i wouldnt have copied in his work mates on my email (form his point of view) but from my point of view, he's a fucking piece of shit, and i WILL take him to cleaners...........

ill keep you updated!

p.s. just put keys in the patio dorrs, so he cant open them, and double locked and left keys in the front door!

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 23:07

just about to take a cpl more cold and flu tabs and finally off to bed (again!)

nighty nighty........

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colditz · 09/11/2006 23:08

He deserves to feel like shit by the sound of it.

littlepiggie · 09/11/2006 23:09

hehe, good on you. Locked dh out a few weeks agowhen he came home 3 hour late drunk.

hoolagirl · 09/11/2006 23:09

Hope you feel better tommorow

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 23:10

im off work with stress (and trying to set up my own business so i can leave and spend more time with our boys.....) and he thinks hes got it hard.............house tidy, dinner cooked, boys ready for bed.......etc etc

MEN.

cx

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hertsnessex · 09/11/2006 23:11

thanks everyone. i might book me and the boys a little weekend break, give him a taste of life without us. hes at work tomorrow, so we wont be here when he gets back..............see if he feels thats a better life for him.

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madrose · 09/11/2006 23:27

you must be really angry - I know I would be. What a silly male.

Why do men always think they are so hard done to?

Have you heard from him, since you sent the message?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 09/11/2006 23:28

What a silly boy!!!

Keep us posted!

RedTartanLass · 10/11/2006 00:04

Oh know you?re feeling shite and are having a bad time, but be truthful, have you never hung up on him and called him all the names under the sun? I?m sure we all have, he?s just showing off in front of his mates. It probably feels like it right now, but it isn?t the end of the world.

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hertsnessex · 10/11/2006 08:07

he came in v late (i was asleep) god knows how though, thought id locked up everywhere so he couldnt get in.

he went down the line of 'what,.....i dont remember that....' twat.

me and the kids arent leaving, he can come and see them tongiht and once they r in bed he has to go. im serious this time. weve had rows before, but im not being made to be the bad one for him 'not having a life'.

hes gone to work and ill carry on as normal today. the kids wont knwo anything has changed.

i want him out. think i need to see a solicitor. funny thing is that hes a barristers clerk! this will be fun.......

thanks for yuor support. i know this may seem a knee jerk reaction to something, but he wanted the kids so quickly, now hes got them he wants a 'life'........his loss.

cx

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FrannyandZooey · 10/11/2006 08:12

I am so sorry

Please be sure of what you want before doing anything drastic. There is no rush to decide how you feel and what you want to happen in the future (and I think most of us would be feeling fairly murderous right now)