what would you do?

[2muskateers]

Hi, I've got myself in a situation and wondered what others would do.... I'm 28 and have an 8 year old and we rent a house, I work and have a little help with rent. we have always lived on our own. I have a partner of nearly 4 years, who is 44 and rents his own flat about 15 miles away near his work, he has no children nor has he ever lived with anybody but won't move in with me! I can't stress how happy we are, he loves my daughter and vice versa, we have so many happy trips and holidays. he stays all weekend but likes to go back to his own space for the week. He has done this along time and when I say I want more he says I'd need a better job or a bigger house or he would need a closer job. All excuses because We have got in this stupid routine. I know he loves me and I trust him with my life but how long could you live like this??

Never thought like that Twinklestein,it's hard because he isn't a bad person. which he really looks like from the responses but it's been said I have moved on from this now. Im scared of starting again though.

It's entirely up to you. You were the one who mentioned how it affected you going out with friends.

You can start again - and you will be fine - all you (seem to be) losing here is someone who eats your food, and uses your stuff and doesnt contribute!! you'll have plenty of cash etc!!

He's doesn't sound like a bad person OP, just mediocre.

Wtf. The petrol does NOT balance it out. The cost of travelling to yours is HIS choice, not yours. It doesnt benefit you at all. How is this a fair exchange for your food he eats? Hed better start turning up with groceries from now on. He's using you as a weekend holiday home and its not even self catering!