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Dumped again by another fucking moron

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Boredofitall2345 · 13/05/2015 22:14

Ugh. Just been dumped again. One and a half years in. Not too long, but I'm just sick of it. Just here for a rant. Among other things, He didn't think it was enough that we enjoyed each other's company. I don't know what the fuck he's looking for. But I reckon the only thing he's going to find is a complete moron who posts selfies and empowering memes on her facebook page.

The Last one thought we weren't good enough friends. This one thought we were only mates and our relationship died 6 months ago. Fucks sakes. Thanks for wasting my time for half a year then. Seriously just Fuck off.

I played it calm though and just walked away. He's now sending me mopey text messages saying he's sad and lots of kisses. Oh fuck off.

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LuckyLuckyMe · 13/05/2015 22:17

What's with the mopey texts. He dumped you. Tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck.

whothehellknows · 13/05/2015 22:20

Twat. I hate it when they send you sad messages, like you're supposed to feel sorry for them after they've dumped you.

Isthereeverarightime1 · 13/05/2015 22:27

I suspect if you were crying and begging him to reconsider he wouldn't be sending you sad texts!! What a nobber!
Didn't get the reaction he was expecting so bombarding you with stupid texts! Block his number and have some Wine

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Boredofitall2345 · 13/05/2015 22:29

Yes, what the fuck. I have done so much for him. So much kindness. And I'm a looker. So to think he couldn't love me is just fucked. Interested to see who's he's lined up to replace me. As I say, I'm quite convinced this person will take selfies amd post pseudo spiritual memes on Facebook.

He thinks I'm gutted. I'm gutted I went out with such a cunt for a year and a half. Seriously! What a fucking waste of time.

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Boredofitall2345 · 13/05/2015 22:30

Going to get some wine and just smoked a ten pack of Marlboro lights. Naughty. But enjoying it. He hated smoking.

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Boredofitall2345 · 13/05/2015 22:31

Why do they do that. Why why why. When you just walk away they sort of change their minds and think oh no...must claw her back and control he situation. No just fuck off. I want a lovely DP and lovely babies and you are just messing me around and could NEVER make the mark.

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Boredofitall2345 · 13/05/2015 22:34

Always such a let down. Full of big protestations of love. We can have as many children as you want!!!! then they just sort of deflate like a crap balloon. Oh god, is there one that is actually GOOD ENOUGH and KEEPS TO HIS WORD. I am mid 30s! Why am I still going through this.

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confusedoflondon · 13/05/2015 22:41

Not everyone you meet is going to be "the one" logically are they? Hes obviously not arrived yet. Ps being kind and good looking doesn't necessarily make you universally lovable - maybe he wanted a grungy mean type ?? Grin

elQuintoConyo · 13/05/2015 23:16

Well, I fancy you WinkGrin

DubbyDubby · 13/05/2015 23:45

hi bored! I'm in the same boat..your comment about them deflating made me Grin it's so true!

springydaffs · 14/05/2015 00:18

Fucker.

I'd like to meet HIM in a dark alley.

Girl, I hope you find your decent - heck, normal - guy soon xxxxxx

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Boredofitall2345 · 14/05/2015 00:19

Haha. Brill comments. Makes me feel better. Night everyone,

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Boredofitall2345 · 14/05/2015 00:21

Xxx

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Coyoacan · 14/05/2015 02:19

Here in Mexico, in my young day they'd fall in love with you because you were free and easy and in control of your life and then, either try to turn you into a traditional Mexican wife or dump you for a virgin. Ho hum

RubbishMantra · 14/05/2015 02:42

"then they just sort of deflate like a crap balloon" Grin I'm afraid I'm going to have to steal that saying.

Poor him, he feels sad for being a complete dick. You had a lucky escape with that one.

I didn't meet anyone who I fancied settling down with until I was (very) late thirties.

BangaloreStories · 14/05/2015 02:46

I'm going to remember your brilliant attitude and strength when I get dumped!

Bogeyface · 14/05/2015 02:49

He thinks I'm gutted. I'm gutted I went out with such a cunt for a year and a half. Seriously! What a fucking waste of time.

May I suggest you text that to him with "You" instead of "him"?!

You want a nice DP and babies, have babies and let the nice DP wander along when he does. You dont need to be with someone to have babies...just putting that out there...!

Ouchbloodyouch · 14/05/2015 09:47

You op..are fucking brilliant. I love you
Flowers

Dowser · 14/05/2015 09:58

I didn't find. 'the one' till I was 56. I was married to the wrong one for 33 years .

Great attitude op. I love the way you flipped straight into anger. If sneaky sadness does come along...that's ok too.

Hope you're ok today.

GoatsDoRoam · 14/05/2015 10:32

What they all said. You're fantastic and I admire your attitude.

Go ahead and have a child if that's what you want. (They don't come with false promises.)

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Boredofitall2345 · 14/05/2015 10:43

Thanks so much everyone. Some truly lovely messages here. I think my anger probably masks the deep sadness of the situation. I don't believe in the one, but I loved this man. And I saw a future together. I was supposed to be moving in with him and I think he started to panic. There is so much more to this story but I can't go into it as its a bit identifying. He has been texting, saying he's not sure he's made the right decision. I haven't replied. I'm considering going abroad for a couple of months to clear my head. My dad did the same to my mum before they got married. They've now been married 40 years. I deserve a stand up guy. I know that.

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Cabrinha · 14/05/2015 10:44

What's with the derision about Facebook selfies and memes?
(not my thing either btw)
But you're sounding disparaging of him... so did you already know he wasn't "the one" too?
If so, you need to bail out earlier.

He can fuck off with his mopey texts though!

Cabrinha · 14/05/2015 10:45

Sorry, crossed messages there. It didn't come across to me before that you loved him.
Definitely ignore the mopey shit.

pocketsaviour · 14/05/2015 10:48

he's not sure he's made the right decision

IME, that's what they say when they want to keep you on a string just in case the person they've got their eye on isn't interested. OR they want you as a back up booty call.

Think my response would be "Tough shit, mate, you should have thought it through properly."

GoatsDoRoam · 14/05/2015 10:50

He has been texting, saying he's not sure he's made the right decision.

That is pathetic. How dare he burden you with his own drama and indecision? He can either straight up say he's changed his mind, or leave you in peace. But "Oh, I'm just not sure anymore..." is just trying to hand the responsibility of his own emotions on to you.

He can fuck right off with that bullshit. Can you block him?

Go abroad, if you can afford it. But be careful of that part of you that is hoping for the same result as for your mum and dad: that's just going to keep you dangling, which will do you no good.