Dumped again by another fucking moron

[Boredofitall2345]

Ugh. Just been dumped again. One and a half years in. Not too long, but I'm just sick of it. Just here for a rant. Among other things, He didn't think it was enough that we enjoyed each other's company. I don't know what the fuck he's looking for. But I reckon the only thing he's going to find is a complete moron who posts selfies and empowering memes on her facebook page.

The Last one thought we weren't good enough friends. This one thought we were only mates and our relationship died 6 months ago. Fucks sakes. Thanks for wasting my time for half a year then. Seriously just Fuck off.

I played it calm though and just walked away. He's now sending me mopey text messages saying he's sad and lots of kisses. Oh fuck off.

Oh I don't know why I used that as a example in this situation. My ex swiftly moved on with somebody like this. And I guess I am bitter and insecure!

You're not bitter and insecure: you've just been dumped. That shit hurts. You're allowed to feel hurt. It does not make you bitter or insecure.

If you're in the position to disappear abroad for a few months then I say do it if you want. People are entitled to change their minds and he's apparently changed his about you. He's done you a favour not leaving it longer actually to end it. ignore the texts as you have been doing that's just dangling/trying to be nice after the fact. Doesn't mean anything. I got dumped last year after nearly five years - by a note. Was livid. Now really happy with my new man, he is most definitely the right one for me. They arrive eventually !!

So he dumps you then sends you mopey texts about maybe he's done the wrong thing=I want to keep you on hold in case things don't work out with the bit I have my eye on just now.

Tell him "you made your decision" - why should he get to sit on the fence when he's just pushed you off it?

Oh dear he is put out that you didn't declare your love and desire for him so now he may have made a mistake.

Same you have just hurt his poor little male ego.

Keep it up

Has anyone ever worked it out after something like this happens? He is sending me a volley of text messages and I haven't replied to any!

Yes. With my ex. Got back with him and he dumped me again. Got back with him and he dumped me yet again after five years. Take heed of that. This isn't the one. Block him and move on. You won't though, because we've all watched too many Hollywood films.

Really enjoying smoking today. Will give up tomorrow. But for today, I'm loving it.

I'm not turning ladies. I was just wondering.....

It seriously is TEXTBOOK. What the actual fuck. Make it work or not. But don't fanny around being indecisive because I didn't collapse wailing.

Someone said above that they doubted whether I loved him. Well, I do, or I did. I'm just angry. And trying to find fault to get over it (not a difficult task).

Wonder how his next girlfriend will deal with all the baggage! Best of luck! Would she like my home made nose clip for his constant smelly wind?!

P.s. When he was thinking out loud to me during the dumping discussion, and he was obviously weighing up the pros and cons like in a fifth form essay (yes, thanks for that), he said his life was easier with me in it because I cooked him breakfast. LOL. lollafuckingpalooza.

You really are just there to be functional to him: first as breakfast chef, and now as a sounding board for his own damn decision-making. No matter the emotional turmoil it might cause you.

What a winning attitude on his part.

Can you switch off your phone for the day? Your provider may also let you block his number: check what their website says about it.

Confused...cannot believe you got dumped by a note. After 5 years. I mean at least he did it so badly, that must have extinguished your love pretty effectively. Hugs and glad you met a good one!

Well if you're making people breakfast you can be my girlfriend! My boyfriend went out with his mates to watch football instead of coming out for my birthday. When asked why he said.

"It's the fuckin FA Cup! I'm not missing that for my birds birthday,my mates will give it to me!"

I was and But I'm mostly and because he's STILL my boyfriend!!

Maybe I should I do a pros and cons list....

Yes, I'm going to switch off my phone. It was quite funny to receive the texts but I'm too busy planning an extended holiday now to care.

Thank you aoife xxx you sound like a far better life partner and perhaps our DPs could get together. They sound well suited.

I know bored after the dust has settled what stays with me is how little I respect him as a person for what he did. However principly after he dumped me the first time I should have let him go so I'm to blame too. To be honest he sounds a bit odd your ex , finishing it then texting incessantly. Is he 12?

Aoife if you think that's bad my ex (same one) wouldn't come to the hospice to sit with me as my mum was dying because football was on. You deserve better you really do, we all do.

Well, yes, it is odd and very immature. Ther is a bit of context however which I can't go into here, things have been hard for external reasons. But I was committed to toughing it out and coming through it. We were just coming to that point. But he's suddenly pulled out, and was very mercurial as to whether or not he did actually want to end it. But I told him that to me, that wasn't good enough and was akin to ending it. And the stuff he said e,g, breakfastgate, just showed how little he respected me. So now he's vacillating coz he's lost a good un. And that good un going to trot off to a bright new life filled with sunshine and shagging hot guys!

Take this the right way - if youre mind is on shagging hot guys already, you weren't/aren't really in love with him. Thats a positive. it's probably the 'sunken costs' thing. I had that too. thought I'd never love again and all that bollocks, cried for 6 weeks straight. Stopped crying, washed face, went on date, met my (actual) dream man. Sorted.

Hehe great. I'm not actually thinking about it. I don't know how I'm going to be able to bear the touch of another man. God!

ooh Bored yer head's all over I totally get it

Boredofitall. You are FUCKING awesome! I seriously wish you'd been my best friend whenever I was moaning about men

Let it out OP! A lot of us have been where you are. But you know why you're already ahead: You see him for what he is, a total headfuck and a twat. His mopey messages mean nothing to you! Go You! Do you know how many women would have gone running back thinking 'OH! NOW HE LOVES ME'!! I was one such woman and regret that no end! Well done!

Smoke and drink to your hearts content and be glad that it was only 1.5 years! You could have been dancing to his tune for fucking years! Thank God he's revealed his true colours!

Keep posting, even if it's just to get it off your chest. This line is what you should hang on to in your original post: "Oh fuck off." I'm sure he's not sure he made the right decision, yup, because he'd probably like to take you around in circles for another few years! Don't even reply. Go on your trip and do whatever you like. You deserve a stand up guy as you say! Go in the direction of forward! I like your spirit!

Bored your strength and humour in the face of this man's obvious twatbadgerry has me filled with admiration. I'd go out with you as well! Too fucking right he doesn't deserve you. Onwards and upwards!

' He thinks I'm gutted. I'm gutted I went out with such a cunt for a year and a half. Seriously! What a fucking waste of time.'

Simply brilliant- totally admire your strength OP !