DH and dd1(7) are really struggling in their relationship. DH was brought up quite traditionally and he claims he always behaved well. He worries that dd doesn't try hard enough and that she doesn't know how to behave socially. His way of dealing with this is to criticise her all the time.
I don't see a problem with dd. All the feedback from friends and teachers is really positive. Her table manners aren't great to be fair but I find it exhausting to keep telling her to sit down and eat with her knife and fork. What I do see is a lack of confidence. DH has been trying to 'fix' her since she was about 3 and I know dd feels she is not able to live up to his expectations. She has told me that she thinks her daddy doesn't like her and much prefers her brother. I suspect she is actually right and it breaks my heart.
Today DH accused me of turning her against him...
I just hate feeling like I have to defend.Dd from his attacks all the time and try and patch things up.
Dh does love her. I think he just doesn't actually like her very much.
What do I do??