Need perspective, AIBU or is DH a prick?

[BrainSurgeon]

DH is in a relatively new job, works very long hours (14 a day in average), comes home at 10:30-11pm. He expects me to greet him with joy, offer a cooked dinner and keep him company, chat about his day etc.
He also expects to have a choice of impeccably ironed shirts every morning. This morning he was in a major huff as he says the only one he could wear - a stripy shirt - is not smart enough for the important meeting he has to go to. There were two other ironed shirts but apparently they were too tight, and I should have known that.
I am currently unemployed, looking for a job, and I feel like he is expecting me to wait on him and fulfill his every need because I'm at home. It's not the work I should do that bothers me, it's the attitude...
AIBU? Does he really get to have no responsibility for anything at all at home, because he works long hours? (Which he really enjoys btw)

is there an ex pat community ? is there an "angloinfo" for your country ?
You need to meet a couple of other Mums in the immediate instance. & start networking, posting for jobs on line (linkedin ?)
I imagine H was just rushing about in the morning with no suitable shirt, but communication was zero !
You need to tell him that whilst "you concede that you have the time to iron/cook/polish the taps, you have given up your independence so that HE can go further, & him coming home at X hour & expecting you to be fluttering about is NOT about to happen. giving orders & being a prick is going to help NO END (not), that he needs to tell you what he needs, & appreciate that whilst he has a job he loves, You don't. being a SAHM is NOT fun, in a foreign country with no friends.

Beware, Sadly, this same scenario broke an acquaintance's marriage, coming home to reheat his dinner in the microwave, & eat alone after an 18 hour day....
He got an OW at work

One way to lighten your load is suggest to him he eats a meal out before coming home at night. Another way is to send his shirts out to laundry. It may mean buying a few more shirts to help with the rotation.

What was he like before this new job? If he's only just started acting like a total arse then maybe a calm and rational conversation about how it makes you feel, and a suggestion that he tries to look at things from your point of view for a change, may be all that is needed.

If he's always been like this, but has got a bit worse since starting the new job, then that's probably a bad sign and impossible much harder to fix.

If you've agreed that you'll stay home and laundry is your remit, then it's understandable that you'd have ironed shirts for him.

No matter how little you work, him expecting your to be telepathic is never reasonable.

He has a history of acting like a bit of an arse under pressure... but then again few people act better when they are stressed!

I have calmed down now and he has apologised.

Thanks everyone for talking to me, I know it's a petty thing in the grand scheme of things, but I was lonely and upset.