How do you get over seeing your kids with the ow?

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I'm happily divorced and have been so for a couple of years.

I have a DS who sees his dad once a week and EOW.

He's now 3 and becoming more verbal every day. He got home last weekend and was full of chat about "daddy and ow". It's the first time he's ever mentioned seeing her and to be honest it was like a kick in the gut when I least expected it.

His dad and I don't talk at all due to past issues. I suppose it's been easier for me as he goes off, I hear nothing, I know nothing and up to now he tells me nothing when he gets back.

So from now on obviously he's going to be full of news about what he's done and it's going to involve her. I know he has fun there and I'm glad about that, I need some strategies for hiding the fact that it's like a kick in the face. How do I support? How do I act? What do I say?

Thanks

I agree Paddling. I'm struggling too especially as the OW has turned out to be a right bitch. They can't comprehend the pain they have caused us or our children.
How can a woman be part of the reason for the split and then pretend she loves the children.

You're right fairy. It is a nightmare. If the OW had it done to her how on earth would she want do it to someone else. I would not want this pain inflicted on anyone.