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Can't sleep or get the thought out of my head - think he is having an affair

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Poshsausage · 02/05/2015 06:33

..Well yes I could just need mental health treatment instead due to severe sleep deprivation but hey ho
Happy to be wrong

It's mentionitis which has pricked my ears up about a woman he has started to work with in the past 6m
Recently it's a lot more , not personal stuff really but it's the way he says her name , I know sounds stupid

He can't do enough for me lately , gushingly so , giving me cash also to treat myself , no reason , were pretty strapped at mo , no affection though quite suddenly
I've asked him about her as it's getting a bit much and his reaction is weird , brushing me off and suddenly having verbal diarrohea about random stuff
Child's car seat taken out of the car , seeing friends who suddenly have major problems and need him there , lots of time at the gym (no gym bag)
God this sounds ridiculous but then why is t bugging me now and I've been googling how to tell if your husbands cheating !! All night ! Just have this really sick feeling in my stomach
Argh can't put my finger on it but it's weird
Feel free to ignore me I'm probably going mad

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Poshsausage · 03/05/2015 13:07

Nothing on the phone it doesn't even charge up

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Poshsausage · 03/05/2015 13:10

Done that nothing and his profile has vanished and not cos I'm blocked as I made a new profile

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Lailoo · 03/05/2015 14:21

Why has his profile vanished?

Poshsausage · 03/05/2015 15:03

No idea he didn't really use it but it was there a few weeks ago
Also both children's car seats have been removed
One being a strap in base unit for baby

He works in and around London so can't follow him really not that I have the time !
Anyone point me to a key logger ?

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YawnyMcYawn · 03/05/2015 15:12

If he is having an affair he's bloody useless at deception though.

Poshsausage · 03/05/2015 15:16

Ha ha
We shall see !
The truth shall put eventually I guess
It just needs a little help along
Knowledge is power and all that ...

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shewept · 03/05/2015 16:08

Some women do go back to work quickly.

But I wouldn't take the fact that she is married as a reason he isn't sleeping with her.

My friends husband had a gambling problem, he kept disappearing. Hid it by saying he was depressed and sat thinking about killing himself. He wasn't he was just going to the casino.

If your dh is lying he has gone from unfaithful wanker to complete shitbag.

Drumdrum60 · 03/05/2015 16:39

You can buy chargers at asda that have different fittings for most phones. Really cheap.

Poshsausage · 03/05/2015 18:48

Thanks the phone had no sim and wouldn't even charge
So don't know why it was in his bag with his laptop

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winkywinkola · 03/05/2015 19:16

Well, he could be prepping you with the "I've been so unhappy for a long time," line. That's why I had an affair.

That's what I got. Apparently our marriage was "dead". Gosh. Thanks for letting me know that before you started dating someone else.

I would follow him to the gym. I would keep very close tabs on him.

Meanwhile be really concerned over his mental health worries. Help with GP appointment. Lots of physical reassurance.

Poshsausage · 03/05/2015 19:19

Well quite it's like the mental health issue has really blown up and it's suddenly all him him him -
The other issue of my suspicions hasn't been mentioned ! I find that really strange !
He showed me the anti slide pressings he was prescribed on April 2nd

Funny how yesterday was the one day he was acting freaked out and stressed and yet the day I asked him outright
Oh yes awoke with a positive attitude today

I'll bet mate

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Poshsausage · 03/05/2015 19:21

Anti depressants ...

Of course if he is fearing or borderline poorly that's fine I'll be supportive
He has lost a business lately and is waiting for some new contracts to start blah blah

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shewept · 04/05/2015 06:58

I would be supportive of his mental health problems.

Visit his gp with so you can ensure the gp knows about his suicidal thoughts etc. Make sure he knows you fully support him and are there for him.

That way if you are wrong and its mental health problems, you have done the right thing and supported your husband.

Or (more likely) he will think you have been taken in by his story, and will make a mistake sooner or later. He will become arrogant in his skill at deceiving you and think he is oh so clever. Probably won't even stop to think you might not be taken in by his shit.

chancer2014 · 04/05/2015 07:21

Do key loggers actually work then? Are they like a physical piece of kit or like a program? How specially do they work?

pocketsaviour · 04/05/2015 15:52

Re: keyloggers.

There are many different keylogger programs available. Basically they work like this:

  1. You install the keylogger (which is a program) on the PC or laptop you want to monitor
  2. You configure various settings on what to record and when, and where to send reports
  3. The keylogger then records all keystrokes and mouse moves, gives you the title of links clicked, etc. You therefore get all passwords that are entered.
  4. You pick up the reports remotely (you can choose to have them emailed to you or you can log on to the target computer and check them on there)
  5. If the target computer is running any anti-virus or anti-spyware programs, you will need to create an exception for the keylogger.

I used the free trial of this one to catch my ex on dating sites :-

Elite Keylogger

blondebaby111 · 04/05/2015 18:26

How r things today op???

Poshsausage · 04/05/2015 19:49

Hi
No dramas today just a busy family day
I'll keep an open mind on things
He has never given me cause for concern really but we shall have to see in the absence of any evidence at the moment !

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