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husband has ruined our lives

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AnnagrammaHawkins · 29/04/2015 21:09

A few weeks ago I posted on aibu about my teenage daughter who had become pregnant. We have just about managed to wrap our heads around the situation as a family now and we're all looking to the future and helping Dd. I've now just received a message on Facebook from a woman who I don't know saying that she slept with my husband a few weeks ago when they were drunk and has been feeling really guilty about it due to our circumstances (apparently he told her about our Dd situation and wife etc) and thought she had to fess up. What the hell!!! What do I do with this information?!

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FujimotosElixir · 30/04/2015 13:44

*send him away

hereandtherex · 30/04/2015 14:28

What ages are the BM sister + hubby?

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AnnagrammaHawkins · 30/04/2015 19:07

Hereandthere hubby is 35 not sure about Bm sister. Thanks for all the messages folks. We've had a good long talk (and cry) and husband is adamant that it was a mistake and he was just feeling overwhelmed etc. I have said to him that this isn't good enough and that after 22 years I expect better. Have said I need time to consider my next course of action as clearly we have issues that I hadn't considered before. I've always been happy in our marriage and content with our life but we do find it hard to make time to ourselves and I guess we have drifted apart emotionally lately. I have told him to sleep on sofa for the next week while I think about things and arranged for older kids to baby sit the younger ones in a few days time so that we can go out alone and try to reconnect. Will update as follows!

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magoria · 30/04/2015 19:10

Have been thinking about this while at work.

The only think that leads me to think he calculated this was that he lied about his name. Why would he do that when 'chatting' unless he had an ulterior motive?

Vivacia · 30/04/2015 20:14

I don't think any of this is insurmountable.

MiddleAgedandConfused · 01/05/2015 10:24

Hope you are OK.