So how weird is this?

[StrongAsAnOx]

My ExDH used to have a favourite joke: Q: Why do girls wear make up and perfume? A: Because they are ugly and smell!

i.e. behind the joke, the truth is he really dislikes artifice. He has always had a particular bugbear about foundation and lipstick and hates the smell/taste of it.

Fine by me as I do too.

However, I've just found out that the OW wears false nails, dyes her hair, wears foundation, lipstick...the full works.

So how come?

He was protesting too much?

Maybe a case of the man doth protest too much? I.E he secretly loves all the slap!

I don't think it's weird really, maybe he's changed his mind or maybe he likes her enough to overlook it?

I think it must just be that he likes her enough to overlook it.

This has nothing to do with OW wearing makeup and perfume. It has to do with a total disrespect for women. He is laughing and despising women and denigrating them, using the makeup as a latch. He sounds like a man who would call women 'dykes' if they wore trousers, 'butch' if they had short hair etc etc.

You are well rid. Congratulate yourself on having got rid of a total, absolute twat.

Bollocks.

He was just trying to control by telling you what to wear and smell like.

New woman he's probably trying to control in a different way.

Assuming he's your ex because he's an arse obviously

Anyone who tells that "joke" is a fucking dickhead and should be burned. The end.

Yes, it's artifice he dislikes, it's women :(

NOT artifice...

No he would never have name called like that. He used to be a very nice man...until he ran off with this new woman! And actually, I get the impression that she is totally in control of him.

Um StAlphonso - nobody should be burned should they?

So do I!

Metaphorically, I promise!

But yes, anyone for whom that is a favourite "joke" is most definitely definitely not a good person. And is 99% sure to be carrying some very deepseated dislike and resentment of women around with them.

He may have done a very good impression of being a nice man....but he wasn't. And indeed eventually he showed it, given that he ran off, no? It might be very raw for you now, and honestly I know I don't sound that sympathetic, although I swear I am - but I think she'll be very sorry she ended up with this booby prize.

Oh trust me St A, he'll be sorrier. She is quite a piece of work. So he will get his just desserts, profiteroles, bruleed. ;)

He might have been saying it because you yourself don't like that stuff.

Some folks just adapt their own personalities to be all things to all people. Until they get tired of it and move on, or indeed life moves them on.

Well Noel - all his previous girlfriends were very much against make-up too. And he has commented on other people's choices. So I don't think it was just about me and my preferences. Hey ho. The way of the world can sometimes remain a mystery! Either way, he'll end up kippered.

Its a matter of choice I suppose. I don't think he's a controlling arse to be honest on that basis alone. Maybe he's just changed his mind.

As a rule I don't go for short men but fell in love with a guy of 5ft 2

Quite simply because he is a weak willed, hypocritical twat I would imagine.

My ex bf didn't like that I smoked, was on benefits (due to extreme illness) and had had quite a few sexual partners... He left me for a smoking, benefit cheat who was/is the local bike.

Jaded. Thank you. That really cheered me up. Probably a bit wonky of me to find that reassuring but I did! Actually, you've all cheered me up. I need to get out of the twatosphere and hang out more with the truly awesome, big swinging handbag brigade.

I'm pleased its cheered you up. I know the feeling and it's horrid.

Men are so full of shit. They all say they don't like makeup. Not one man says oh yes I like a full face of makeup on a woman.

But the women that turn their heads invariably have.. you guessed it.

Yours isn't the only hypocritical tosser with this convenient dual view. There's a lot of them out there.

My Dp said he likes natural looketc and has always gone for that...he also said I looked stunning in a photo where I was wearing the absolute works so basically they like it all ways. if they are attracted to you they are attracted to you made up or natural I think.

Is he around the 40 mark? mid life crises often mean that men change their feelings about lots of things - it's either hormonal or that they've been repressing their true feelings for a loooong time and have now run out of energy to continue repressing.

Or he just fancied a change.

Hope it bites him in the arse!

He sounds like am immature idiot...

Men underestimate and women overestimate what make up can do.

Typically with these 'nice' men; wife doesn't like make up, he doesn't like make up too.

Chances are you didn't know the real him.