Emotionally still attached

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My partner and I have been together for 16 months, he still pays the mortgage and bills in the house his wife lives in, they aren't divorced yet and she doesn't work, is this normal?

And to answer your question, yes its normal . Until the financials are settled all monies are joint.

My mortgage was paid off a long time ago and my husband pays all the bills as he lives there alone.

fortunately for me its all very amicable on my side.

I am financially independent so although there is an imbalance it doesn't affect me.

I suppose at the heart of your OP is the question of whether you can build a positive relationship with a man who is still emotionally and financially so invested in his marriage. I dunno...sounds like this one is going to run a while though and you might find you start feeling like you are subsedising his future without necessarily getting the reward you expect.