I work full time and have 2 children in secondary school who are writing tests at the moment.
Dp (we have been seeing each other for around 2 years) was due to come round last night. I left work early because I was feeling unwell. He doesn't work on a Tuesday so I was half hoping he would come and pick me up (it would be a long drive) but he had arranged to see an old friend of his (which I knew) and it would have meant he was an hour or so late going round to their house and in the end, I was ok on the train.
He phoned me at 5pm to say he was having a really nice time in their garden and he'd see me either in half time of the football or at the end of the match. I said fine but not to be late as I wanted to go to bed early and the kids had tests in the morning and I didn't want them woken up when he came in and that was the last I heard from him. I tried to call at 9, no answer so I just left it.
At 1.30am, I hear the front door go (he has keys). He's clearly blind drunk, falls up the stairs. I get up to make sure he doesn't wake up the kids etc. but then am fuming so I can't get back to sleep plus feeling ill. Result is that I have had to work from home today (seriously unpopular with boss).
I have told dp he has to go, give me the keys and just not come back. He says I am over-reacting and I should just 'take the day off work, what's the problem'. This isn't the first time he has done this. He claims he had no idea it was that late and actually didn't believe me that he came in that late (until I showed him his phone where I texted last night to tell him as I knew he would say this). It happened twice in one week 2 weeks ago and on one of those occasions, he came in at 5am! After that occasion, I told him to leave but he refused to go and said he would change his ways yadda yadda and now this. He's clearly never going to change and I want to cut my losses.
I don't think I am being unreasonable in asking him to go. What do you think?