Mil is EA to me, now dcs and possibly FIL

[maroonedwithfour]

I've put up with MIL for the last 15 years. She has recently started on my dcs. Enough is enough.

I am doing nothing to encorage a relationship, limiting contact and not allowing her to babysit. Advice appreciated.

Op I told dp that our home (it's actually his) is my safe place. His mother gave me negative anxious feelings in it so she wasn't to come any more - or I would leave. He supported me because I let him know how serious it was. Why will he change when you won't ?

Don't allow him to hide in no mans land where it's safe. You are the onlyone that hasn't done anything - so why do you feel shit?

Good question, joy. I guess its been drummed into me.

Why? Why would you leave and hide in your bedroom? What right has she got to make you feel like that in your own home?

You need to stand up for yourself.

I have a lot of thinking to do.

The best advice I got was DONT wait for that BIG thing. Just do it.

It will cause upset and emotional black mail ect.. But honestly who cares? How would you feel if this was some random stranger treating you and your kids like this? She doesn't get specail rights because she gave birth to your Dh

Op, do you think a therapist could help you think about it? 15 years is a lot of years to pick apart alone! Keep posting though, sounds like maybe the 'stately homes' thread could be a place to begin your journey. X

Thanks Joy

People like her keep things to the lowest level on purpose. they know if they did something big enough that it would give you reason to react.

Stand up for yourself and call her out on her rudeness, if she doesn't like to make scenes, use this against her

People like her keep things to the lowest level on purpose. they know if they did something big enough that it would give you reason to react

Absolutly