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Original poster

I think I've met a serial cheat who carries on trying it on with me

39 replies

Junzuki · 12/04/2015 14:13

I joined a club and a guy there has made many a suggestion as to how we could me more than friends. I've knocked him back every time but from some of the stories he tells it sounds like he's had years of either cheating or at least trying to cheat on his wife. It's awful and I've even mentioned her to him to try and make him realise, I wee'd all over the toilet seat to put him off but nothing seems to work. How do you get through to a guy who is low level harassing you without making a scene?

OP posts:
qazxc · 12/04/2015 14:17

I'm a bit perplexed as to how the weeing on the toilet seat is going to help TBH.
Just keep knocking him back and he'll eventually get bored/ go and try his luck with someone else.

noblegiraffe · 12/04/2015 14:18

Why do you keep talking to him?

Original poster
Junzuki · 12/04/2015 14:20

We have to talk to each other as part of the club.

OP posts:
VanitasVanitatum · 12/04/2015 14:22

You wee'd all over the toilet seat?!?!?!? Ummmm... Confused

MyOtherNameIsFunnier · 12/04/2015 14:23

I can't get past the wee thing, sorry.

You did what now?

Vivacia · 12/04/2015 14:23

Did you try poo?

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 12/04/2015 14:23

Confused here, too.

Try weeing all over the floor maybe?

qazxc · 12/04/2015 14:24

Does he say this stuff in front of other people? can you arrange to not be alone with him?

WickedWax · 12/04/2015 14:24

you lost as the me at the bit where you peed over the toilet seat to put him off - WTF? Confused

you're obviously not being clear enough, he's relying on you not wanting to cause a scene. I suggest you cause a scene and tell him firmly, sharply and loudly "I'm not interested, stay away from me".

bloodyteenagers · 12/04/2015 14:25

Why is he following you into the loo?
What type of
Club is it that you have to be harassed as part of the membership?

qazxc · 12/04/2015 14:26

I feel sorry for the other people of the club that have to use the piss sodden seat.

fairyfuckwings · 12/04/2015 14:31

How would he even know you'd weed on the seat?

Original poster
Junzuki · 12/04/2015 14:33

Well he's responsible for the building we use so hopefully the owners will be having a go at him about leaving the toilet in a mess. I don't know I'm prob not thinking straight at the minute.

OP posts:
noblegiraffe · 12/04/2015 14:35

When he comes onto you do you brush it off? Or do you look him up and down and say 'not if you were the last man on the planet, you creep?'

The second tactic may be more effective.

qazxc · 12/04/2015 14:39

Wouldn't it be simpler to just try and stear clear of him and/or tell whoever else is in the club can "Can I stick with you Dave (or whatever the pervy bolloxes name is) is trying it on again and won't take no for an answer."

VanitasVanitatum · 12/04/2015 14:39

I can't imagine they'll have a go at him for a bit of wee in the ladies.. How do you suppose he'd know it was you?

That was a pretty unacceptable thing to do, someone has to clean that up.

Can you tell someone else if you feel you are not getting through to him?

HolgerDanske · 12/04/2015 14:40

What??

qazxc · 12/04/2015 14:42

I'm assuming OP is male (easier to wee on seat, using the same toilet), am I wrong OP? What kind of club is it? how many people?

pinkfrocks · 12/04/2015 14:42

There are some strange people on forums Hmm

Justusemyname · 12/04/2015 14:59

-10/20

HolgerDanske · 12/04/2015 15:08

Oh would you look at that, it's back to school tomorrow...

Vivacia · 12/04/2015 15:54

When he comes onto you do you brush it off? Or do you look him up and down and say 'not if you were the last man on the planet, you creep?'

I think the OP takes option 3.

AnyFucker · 12/04/2015 15:58

I reckon you played into the hands of a piss fetishist

to some people weeing on the toilet seat means "come hither, sexpot"

MadeMan · 12/04/2015 16:14

"I wee'd all over the toilet seat to put him off but nothing seems to work."

You would have to wee in my potpourri to put me off; a wet toilet seat is no match for an arms length of toilet tissue.

OydNeverDeclinesGin · 12/04/2015 16:18

Well that was amusing Hmm

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