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What a pig!!

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YellowTangerine · 08/04/2015 18:08

Hello I'm just after some advice really. Just found out my pig of an ex has shown his friends pictures of my privates after giving birth. I begged him to delete them but he wouldn't. Is there anything that can be done?? Thanks

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 08/04/2015 18:23

Hi Yellow. OMG. What a disgusting specimen. I can't and wouldn't want to imagine how violated you feel. The most intimate moment of your life and he makes a mockery of it. Twisted doesn't even cover it
His friend must be just as perverted and twisted looking at it
I'm not really up on legal advice but I'll hold your hand until some one more clever comes along.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 08/04/2015 18:25

Oh and he's not a pig. A pig wouldn't behavee like that He couldn't lace a pig's boots

BitchPeas · 08/04/2015 18:25

Hmmmm this may come under revenge porn? How do you know this happened? Has he told you over text or anything?

Handywoman · 08/04/2015 18:27

It's pathetic. What kind of friends does he have? Try, if you can to just pity them all.....

Georgethesecond · 08/04/2015 18:28

His friend will know what a nasty piece of work he is then.

AnnieMoor · 08/04/2015 18:30

Blimey - that's incredibly awful. Thank God he's your ex.

OttiliaVonBCup · 08/04/2015 18:34

That is vile behaviour on his part.

mrsmeerkat · 08/04/2015 18:36

Could you report him. I'm sure that isn't right. God he is disgusting !

pocketsaviour · 08/04/2015 18:41

Good news: this behaviour ("revenge porn") became illegal earlier this year and carries a maximum 2 year jail sentence.

I suggest calling 101 and reporting to them as a first step.

So sorry you've been put through this. What a disgusting waste of skin he must be.

Quitelikely · 08/04/2015 18:57

Report it. Don't tell him. Just let the police deal with it.

CarbeDiem · 08/04/2015 18:58

If you believe that he's done it then call 101 for some advice - that's low and disgusting of him.
I hope his friends told him so too.

Pippin8 · 08/04/2015 19:00

How awful, like others have said, this is classed as revenge porn & needs to be reported to the police adapt. Please don't feel embarrassed, he deserves to be punished. What a vile peice of shit.

Pippin8 · 08/04/2015 19:01

asap

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YellowTangerine · 08/04/2015 21:12

Thanks everyone. I've spoken to him and he's denying it but I know it's true because his friend knew details about the picture. I'm hesitant to report as he is my DD's dad but I do want that picture gone. Going to sleep on it and decide in the morning.

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CarbeDiem · 08/04/2015 21:22

Did his friend tell you in a 'heads up' way or in a haha! way?
The reason I ask is because the friends reaction may well make him think twice about showing it to others in the future.
It matters little though, what the fuck possessed him to show a photo of the mother of his child at her most vulnerable. Fuck that he's DD's dad, YOU are DD's mum and he clearly doesn't respect that so deserves none back.
Tell him face to face - he's got one chance, right now to delete the photos in front of you or you will go to the police, kindly tell him to google about the new revenge porn laws if he thinks you are bluffing.

GammonAndEgg · 08/04/2015 21:24

The best thing you can do for your daughter is to show her that you won't be treated like shit by any man - not even her father.

43percentburnt · 08/04/2015 21:30

'I'm hesitant to report him as he is my dd's dad'.

It is a shame it doesn't have the same level of courtesy for his dd's mum.

Call 101.

PandorasToyBox · 08/04/2015 22:09

Agree with the others, phone 101 and they may be able to take his hard drive/what ever the photos are on???

What a complete cunt he is

Sending you and hope that you stand up to this vile man.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 08/04/2015 22:15

But yellow the best thing you can do for your dd in this instance is to set her an excellent example that what he did was wrong against the law and no women or indeed man has to put up with such vulgarity and violation.

whateverlovemeans · 08/04/2015 22:56

Get a lawyer and sue this bastard. This is now a crime!

Lweji · 08/04/2015 23:05

How would your DD feel if anyone mentioned having seen photos of your parts circulating among men?

Your DD deserves better than this dad.

bberry · 08/04/2015 23:09

Blimey, I didn't even know about this new law

You must report him and set a good example to your dd that this behaviour is not acceptable

AnyFucker · 08/04/2015 23:27

was it the law you were wanting advice on, or some other way to deal with this ?

I think there is only one kind of "language" men like this understand, tbh

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YellowTangerine · 08/04/2015 23:30

His friend told me right after I just didn't see the message until today as it was in my 'others' folder on facebook.
Your all right. If someone did that to my DD Id be livid and would report it in a second. He says he has deleted it but I'm not sure. I'm gonna ring and see what they say anyway.

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YellowTangerine · 08/04/2015 23:32

Yes AnyFucker just wanted to know if there was anything I could do about it and how I should approach the situation really.

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