Husband had an affair - should I request an STD check or AIBU?

[Vacill]

Was just the one lady - who he met OLD.

FFS ignore me; you actually meant OnLineDating didn't you. Sorry.

OLD = on line dating

OLD = on line dating

I would insist on seeing the result on paper, printed by the clinic. Don't care how easy it is to call or get a text.

And in answer to why not wait two weeks, because he has put your, his wife and the mother of his children, health at risk whilst betraying your trust. That puts his opinions, desires and needs about level with the ground under the sewer system.

What's 'OLD'?

So sorry that you are going through this. yes you need to get checked, and so does he: you need to go together and him tripping off in his lunch break won't give you the reassurance you need.
If he is truly contrite then he would be doing anything in his power to bri8ng back your faith in him. But he isn't is he OP? He's making you feel as if your lack of belief in him is vindictive, when he was the one who shattered your belief.
He didn't fall in love with a colleague or a family friend over time. He didn't get drunk and have a tumble at a works do. He calmly and soberly went looking for someone else to have a sexual relationship with.
Accept that this probably wasn't he first and decide what you want. Do you want him to stop seeing other women? Is it the sex you object to or the rejection of you and your children? Will you ever be able to trust him again and if not how long before you crack trying to accept what he says while constantly looking for the lies.
You know him, I don't, and only you can decide what you want to get out of this. Put yourself first.

OLD online dating I think. Thats why other posters are asking about that.

unfortunately if all is clear there's no paperwork to prove it so he can fudge away with that line

Obviously I don't know about OP's area, but round here the clinics will issue a certificate saying that someone's clear for a small fee - about £10 if memory serves. Sounds daft, I know, but apparently it's popular among sex workers, as well as some who want to wave "proof" at new partners (though obviously they could all have caught something after being tested)

Of course, since OP wouldn't know what these actually look like, there'd be nothing to stop him faking one ...

Why don't you wait two weeks until he has the all clear? Well because

1. He has lied, cheated and deceived you (at least once). Why would you trust him?

1. It is better to know NOW. FOR YOURSELF if you have any infection and get it sorted asap rather than wait for a fortnight then maybe believe him and not get tested and have an infection with no symptoms.

1. He is a proven liar. You can't trust him.

Sorry you are in this position OP. Look after yourself.

Went to GUM clinic today. Staff lovely but had to ask why am I here having my labia, vagina and urethra scraped by a stranger. Results in 2 weeks.

Well done you it's not nice I've been there.

And the reason strangers are jabbing and scraping your bits is because your scumbag of a partner trawled the Internet and slept with at least one woman he met on there....

Hope it all comes back fine Op.

Yes, well done. and a virtual hug.

Because a man betrayed your trust and exposed you To every sexual partner of both him and the woman he slept with.

Well done for going. I know it's not pleasant but it's better than wondering or not getting treatment for an infección.

Be kind To yourself

Unreasonable - no. Personally I would say castration might, and only might, be unreasonable.

Just shocked you are even asking, wtf.

Well done Vacill - that's one more thing out of the way [smiley]

Have you had any thoughts on what you want to do about your marriage?

Well done OP for taking charge of your own results.
I'm sure it will be OK but for piece of mind you needed to do it.
And what is happening with your 'D'H??