I'm feeling really confused and upset by a phone call with my mum about her will and can't really discuss it with anyone. Sorry if this is a bit long or confusing.
First a bit of background: I have a brother, sister and another sibling. The other has been in residential care since childhood due to disability. My brother and sister don't speak due to a falling out caused by him so I've always been stuck in the middle. My older two siblings have a different dad to me and my brother but I am equally close to both. We are all adults (30-45yrs). My father died a long time ago.
Last year I suggested my mum should make a new will as I don't want to be stuck between 2 fighting siblings and she doesn't want the sister in care included as she is already provided for.
This morning my mum rang to ask me to go with her to make a will, leaving everything to my brother, as he still lives at home and she doesn't want him to be homeless.
I understand her wanting to provide for him but he's a grown man. He has been very lazy over the years, only working over the last 2 years, whilst my sister and I have struggled with mortgages, jobs, families etc. My mum has been ill over the past few years and it's me and my family that look after her and taxi her about. She even lived with us for 3 months when she was unable to care for herself (even though me and DH work full-time and have 3 DC and her son was living in her house and not working). I also think that my dad would turn in his grave to think his other children were left out like this.
I can't discuss this with my sister as I think it would ruin her already fragile relationship with my mum. I don't want to appear greedy but I am feeling really shocked and confused. I can't imagine treating my 3 DC like this.