STBXH moved out a week ago after we split at the begining of the year & him faffing for 10 weeks about moving out. I instigated the split due to his PA, gas slighting, controlling EA behaviour that I'd had enough of. He has accepted no responsibility for his behaviour & has gathered people around him who know what is like as a support group. His parents have stopped talking to me even though they are well aware of what a wanker he is.
Anyway, he finally left last week & I have found a message he left for me. My best friend bought me a little hanging message that said 'In a world where you could be anything, be your self'. The night before he left I hung it over our the bed he was sleeping in. Yesterday I moved it & found he has written 'and let the world see how ugly you are on the inside too' on the back. I was really upset.
I really wanted to send him a vicious message about it but was persuaded by my friends to take the higher ground & not mention it because he is trying to get a reaction. It has made me realise how angry I am about our relationship.
When we first split he did say that he realised he treated people like shit & he'd had an epiphany & was going to change but when I did not change my mind & told him I didn't believe it he reverted back to type & now it is all my fault. I am an evil bitch that has broken up the family etc.
I need some closure but I need some way to accept that he will not take any responsiblity for his behaviour.
As for the message I am thinking of sending it to him for his birthday next month, with no message just so knows I've seen it & he can't affect me.
Thanks for reading.