DH and I both celebrate our birthdays within a couple of weeks of each other and this year is a big birthday. We haven't made any plans yet, but I was thinking along the lines of something joint, we could invite some friends and family to that will also include DS, maybe a couple of meals out. By way of background, DH and I have been together for 15 years, married for 8 and have a DS who's 1 (and gorgeous!).
I found out the other day that DH has contacted 3, what I'd consider to be mutual, friends (some via their wives) to ask what they would prefer to do to celebrate his birthday. He's given them 3 options, 1 is abroad and the other 2 are days out a significant distance away and taking into account they will be boozy, will probably involve at least 1 overnight.
The issue? DH hasn't told me any of this. He has come up with these ideas, contacted the friends for their opinions and not said a word. I don't know whether he assumed nobody would mention it to me or was waiting to text me once he was on the plane or coach. It's been around a week since I found out, so he has had time to mention it. I haven't told him that I know yet. Would this annoy you or would you just let it go and see whether these plans come off?