What age were you when you met someone decent?

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Having put up with my fair share of arseholes (my poor boundaries) I have tried to build up my self esteem and learn more about what is and isn't acceptable in a relationship. I have also come to the conclusion that I was very co dependent in my last relationship and I will ensure that doesn't happen again. I've been on the relationship boards full time reading the fabulous advice and opinions. I am also a huge fan of tony gaskin and baggage reclaim.
So I met someone precisely two weeks ago and its lovely. I have already made one post about potential red flags but since then I haven't had any cause to worry
He seems decent. But I simply cannot enjoy it. I just wonder ok here we go how will this one fuck up then? What are you hiding? When is your facade going to slip?
Everything goes tits up so why bother?
Or could he actually be just a decent bloke?
I am 43 jaded and looking for positive stories that some other mumsnetters have actually met a good man later on in life?
I just feel like I am forever doomed to bad relationships
Even if I do notice any worrying traits and end it I would be proud of my new zero tolerance stance but fucked off that I had paired up with another knob

23. Been together six years and married for three. He is my favourite person.

Nope, not happened for me. I'm 41 soon.

39. Met online and at first was looking out for something weird about him (based on experience!) but 7 years on we are married and couldn't be happier! Definitely worth the wait!

15.He was 19. We're into our 60's now and very much in love.

I met a couple after my marriage broke up in my late 20s-30s. I wasn't ready. I even think sometimes that I wish I could tell one of them sorry, because he was really great and didn't deserve the non-committal crap I launched at him. I was ready and DH was ready when I was in my 30s when the ripples of my shit marriage had died away.

First one I met at the age of 13, he was 15. We went out for a few years. He was all for getting married. I was all for not getting married.

I met my husband when I was 24 he was 29 and we married 2 years later. We have been married for 20 happy years with a great future ahead of us.

a total of 6 between the ages of 18 and 31

You've probably met plenty, the knack is recognising a good one.

Bad ones? I've met several. They didn't last long. I can recognise them a mile off and feel nothing but contempt for them.

There are some really lovely stories here. Someone upthread made the comment about being too invested in this relationship. I like to think that for the last 6 months where I have been single that I have invested in me
Obviously I would like it to work but its bloody early days!

I have two friends who after many years with their true arse holes of H and having 2 kids. In the early 40s realised enough was enough and ended there marriages. They went through hell as both husbands were controlling and abusive. One H took just over a year to finally except it and move out. BUT both my friends are now remarried to the most lovely thoughtful men. One friend had a lot of trust issues in the beginning and was trying to second guess. She also felt it was all too good to be true and almost ended it because she felt so vulnerable. Her and her new H talked about it and worked it through.

Both Df are so happy and they deserve It.

You have to allow yourself to be happy sometimes.

19. Within a year we were fully committed and 30 years on still hanging on in there

He must be a good 'un cos his family are horrific and I have managed to ignore such a lot of hysteria and nastiness.