I’m not crazy to still be bothered by this am I?

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I've named changed for this as will out me with dps sis.

try to keep it short last year I found a receipt for a sex toy and asked DP about it (assumed it was a present for me!) after first saying that he’d bought it for a male friend for a joke he eventually admitted he’s bought it for a female friend of his sisters who he’s known for years, he said at a party his sister had it came up that this woman had never had one and he bought her one because he thought it would be funny. I was annoyed that he’d buy something so intimate for another woman but he convinced me that it was just a joke and that there was nothing to worry about.

This weekend his sister was over and I mentioned it assuming she was in on the ‘joke’ and she didn’t know what I was talking about, said she didn’t remember the conversation and told DP it was weird

now I feel like a fool for being convinced this is ok. I have no other reason to be suspicious and am sure nothing is going on between them but I can’t get how he thought it was ok or her actually as she accepted it and knows its from him

That explanation can't be true. If I found out my DP had bought a sex you for anyone else, I would be very suspicious.

I would say he bought it for a woman who wasn't his sisters mate and that convo never happened, hence her knowing nothing about j
It.

Did you post about it on here as it sounds familiar.

Right. so he lied and said it was a "joke" for a male friend, then when that was too transparent he lied and said it was a "joke" for a female friend.

Do you know this woman? Because I would ask her straight out, "Did my boyfriend buy you a sex toy?"

He's lying.

Buying for a male friend is weird but I can see how someone might do it for a 'joke' bit of lad 'banter'.

The second story, that's just very weird. Buying a sex toy for his sisters friend because he thought it would be funny. Weird and a lie.

Word of advice, the more convoluted a story is the more it's likely to be a lie. This just strikes of someone very quickly making something up on the spot.

I think it was a lie.... and even if it's not that's not really acceptable is it.

I wouldn't let it go Id want the truth.

Come on - how on earth would that be the truth?

It's probably nothing to do with this woman either so I wouldn't bd asking her! He's just made it up totally and bought it for someone completely different probably.
Both of those lies were pretty outrageous! I'd say he's bang to rights

Did you really believe him, or were you turning a blind eye? It sounds like a complete barrowload of bollocks.

Did you post on here when you found it? I remember a similar thread.

Although Ive no doubt there are many such stories...

no not posted this before. I do believe him, it's strange but I don't know what other explanations there are that aren't also strange

Why are you posting on here if you believe him?
He's lying.

I would assume that he bought it for himself but is embarrassed about it, so invented this cock and bull story.

And if he DID buy a sex toy for a friend of his sister's, that is just so completely creepy and unacceptable.

In either scenario, it's weird. So no you're not crazy to be bothered by this.

Sounds like he's lying. Ask what friend he bought it for and ring her together on speakerphone.

Theres one very obvious explanation that isnt at all strange. He is having an affair and bought it for his mistress.

Actually Goats has a point, do you know what kind of toy it was? If it was a dildo or butt plug then he's probably using it himself and too embarrassed to tell you. If it was a rabbit or bullet then he's playing away.

Hi OP, highly, highly suspicious. People don't buy friends of the opposite sex sex toys. Not for a joke. They buy them sex toys for when they shag them. I'm amazed you actually believed him!

He bought a sex toy for the other woman he was/is shagging

That is the most likely explanation, and tbh, the only one that makes any sense at all

You've been had, OP. I am sorry.

Unless it was a male sex toy ?

Ask him again and tell him you want the truth this time. Tell him that you will be checking with the woman so if it's not her he'd best come clean.

It's not a male toy.

I think it's the truth that it was for her, I guess i'm asking if there's anyway it's innocent like he claims

not in my opinion, no

and not in yours either, or you would have parked this a long time ago

Guilty!

I think you should ask her. Tell her you found the receipt he told you this story and you think it is a bit odd.

but I don't know what other explanations there are that aren't also strange

Well, it's not an ornament is it?

He is either using it himself or shagging the person he bought it for.

Oh come on, you didn't really buy into that crock of shit did you? he bought a sex toy for a male friend as a joke... oh no wait, it was a female friend, but it was still only a joke... yeah right, okay

Even if it is for her, I doubt it was for a joke and more like a sexual thing. Maybe he fancies he, is sleeping with her, wants to sleep with her or is just a bit innapropriate and a bit sleazy. How would you feel if some guy bought you a sex toy?

Are they close friends, maybe if they were really really close and you knew her really well it would be mildly believable, but if it was just a joke why couldn't he have told you about it at the time? I have a friend that loves vibrators and proudly has quite the collection, if my husband found a funny one that would be a good joke one he would say shall we get this for X as a joke, look it's got a funny moustache on it etc. He would NOT buy it on his own, that is weird and sleazy. The fact that he doesn't have it means she actually accepted it?