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How to make the date extra special?

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Resurgence333 · 14/03/2015 21:26

So, I have been asked out on a date by a woman I know. We are going to go to the cinema and then for a meal. I have been on dates before. However, I like this woman a lot. She is intelligent, lovely and witty as well as beautiful. So, any advice would be great!

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Resurgence333 · 14/03/2015 21:32

Anyone?

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MummyBtothree · 14/03/2015 21:35

What area are you wanting advice on? x

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Resurgence333 · 14/03/2015 21:38

I want to make her feel really special. My sister has been giving my some advice. However, I would like to know from others. As well as flowers and chocolates, is there anything else I should give her to let her know how much I value her?

She is a very cuddly person by the way (if that makes a difference one way or the other!).

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Resurgence333 · 14/03/2015 21:42

Any advice would be great though!

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MummyBtothree · 14/03/2015 21:43

personally I think its not always about grand gestures, presents and flashing the cash. Anything thats individual or tailored to her that she may not have experienced before. Where are you going on the date?

NoArmaniNoPunani · 14/03/2015 21:44

Don't go over the top on a first date. I'd feel like a twat walking into the cinema with a bunch of flowers

TheHappinessTrap · 14/03/2015 21:45

Can you express how you feel about her in various ways when you're with her? Take an interest in her, listen, remember what she says, get to know her likes and dislikes, etc.,?

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Resurgence333 · 14/03/2015 21:48

Thank you!

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Wantsunshine · 14/03/2015 21:48

That's lovely but if you give flowers do it when you pick her up so she doesn't have to carry them. Just be yourself, she said yes to the date! Have fun

MummyBtothree · 14/03/2015 21:50

Yes listen to what she says and then that will help you in the future and it will show her how attentive you are. My hubby suprised me with a night at the dogs after me saying briefly Id never been but would love to.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 14/03/2015 21:55

Please don't turn up with flowers and chocolates for a first date. It's massively over the top and would out me right off to be honest.

MummyBtothree · 14/03/2015 22:03

Flowers and/or chocolates on a first date is a bit cheesy and looks like you're trying a bit too hard.

Reese123 · 14/03/2015 22:57

I think acting like a gentlemen opening doors, etc paying for the meal is actually a far nicer gesture than chocolates and flowers. That is too much for a first date. Just show a lot of interest in her, don't soend the whole evening talking about yourself and ask her some questions

FinallyHere · 14/03/2015 23:06

Save the flowers and chocs at first.

Mostly, ask here some easy questions and really listen to her answers. Remember what she talks about and ask her how its going next time you see her.

Enjoy finding out about her and let her know you are enjoying yourself.

Ask her if there is anything she would like to do on your next date. Have some suggestion ready if she doesn't have any idea. Its difficult to suggest things when you don't know much about a person. Enjoy.

blueshoes · 15/03/2015 00:00

She asked you out on a date. Any particular reason why didn't you ask her instead?

MummyBtothree · 15/03/2015 00:14

Glad u asked that, I was also wondering?

lunalelle · 15/03/2015 03:08

Maybe send flowers if the date goes well, but don't go over the top on a first date. Flowers, chocs, giant teddies are all too much and moving too fast. Would be v. Creepy.

sadwidow28 · 15/03/2015 03:09

Definitely don't take flowers and chocolates - but ask her if she would like some sweets from the cinema pick n mix counter... or an ice cream. [Popcorn is a great sharing treat and you could always brush hands accidentally-on-purpose]

I agree with opening doors and being attentive - but let her see a little bit of you as well.

Relax and enjoy your date! Enjoy it for what it is - a great night out with a woman you want to spend time with. Don't be anxious (it will show).

Come back and tell us how it went won't you? We are suckers for on dating threads. Grin

sadwidow28 · 15/03/2015 03:12

The t'internet gremlins stole a word! Sad

We are suckers for on dating threads = We are suckers for up-dates on dating threads.

AbCdEfGh123 · 15/03/2015 06:28

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AlternativeTentacles · 15/03/2015 07:02

I agree with the above.

Hows about 'just be a nice person/yourself'

Flowers and chocolates on a first date? Trying much too hard.

MummyBtothree · 15/03/2015 09:29

Abcd there is nothing to be gained from making an issue on op's comment of 'anyone?' just like you did on my thread. It only reflects on your character.

milkysmum · 15/03/2015 09:37

I agree Abcd no need for that comment- asking anyone to me is just like bumping the conversation into the active list and there is nothing wrong with that.
Just be yourself op. Listen. Take an interest in what she has to say.

keepsmiling2015 · 15/03/2015 10:01

Just be yourself. Be a gentleman. Don't be too ott with gifts etc. That can be a turn off too!

woowoo22 · 15/03/2015 10:04

Which film and what kind of restaurant (nosey)?

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