Has anybody ever got to this point?

[TokenGinger]

Where you just wonder whether you'll end up a sad, lonely spinster alone?

My taste in men is clearly horrific. No matter how focussed I am on assessing every bit of their being, I always end up with some kind of controlling/manipulative twit.

So, I'm at a point now where I'm wondering if I'll ever meet somebody decent. If I'll ever have children. If I'll ever have a happily ever after.

It upsets me when people keep saying "You're young, stop worrying" (I'm 25), because although I may be young, it doesn't take away the desires I have or the emptiness I feel and the longing I have to have a child. I've even started to look at adoption.

Sucks.

I am 25. I am a single mum to a 3 year and will soon be divorced. I much rather be in your shoes...

Rebecca, I'm sorry for what you're going through xx

Rebecca my post applies equally to you. In 15 years time you will be mother to an 18 year old when many of your friends will be potty training 2 year olds.
You will be able to look back on your yime together with your child and forwards to both your futures doing your own tjings and yet still having each other.

Being an lp is tough (i have 2 dc) you do all the work but you get all the glory too.

Soon yours will be at school and every day they learn more independence. But 3 is a wonderful age too. Challenging but also amazing to see their wee personalties growing.

You will gain amazing strength and resilience from being an sp. And a bond with your child that is special because you are the one who is there for them.

Hang in there. It gets better.

My advice for both of you (and me) is take loads of pictures. You will look back on these days, yours 20s and be glad you lived them and hindsight has wonderfully rose tinted glasses you will remember all the best bits. Right now you are making the memories that make your life well lived.