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Yet another sex thread....

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Embarrassedwife · 11/03/2015 21:18

I'm a frequent poster on MN hence the name change for this one

Me and DH are in our mid/late 20s (vagueness for privacy) and have been married for several years.

Sex is generally good when it occurs but id like to have it more than we do. Any tips for broaching this with him? Am too embarrassed to come out and say it.

Also he's never ever performed oral sex on me despite me doing it to him, I've never had it in my life (he was my first everything and he never had a gf / relationship before me either). Would it be rude to ask him to do this for me? Again, how to ask him to.....

God I sound like a teenage pervert or a troll.....I promise I'm a regular poster x

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Embarrassedwife · 13/03/2015 00:44

I agree shona but if it means I'll get some then I'll wax. As perverted as I may come across I want his mouth down there so bad im willing to do this ??

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SensationalGirl · 13/03/2015 04:25

Well that's good news. So when will you be changing your name from embarrassed to fullysatisfiedwife?

Witchofthenorth · 13/03/2015 05:52

Yes!! I'm so pleased for you OP...one of my favourite parts of sex and my DP....glad it's sorted!

dippyd123 · 13/03/2015 05:58

My ex used to hate going down he would do it but was very lazy about it would piss me right off as he was very quick to want a bj. Hes now ex so doesnt matter any more but its very dissapointing it is the best feeling

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Embarrassedwife · 13/03/2015 07:17

I'll be name changing back to my usual name but I definatley will NOT be coming back to share when he's done it ;-)

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Lucylloyd13 · 13/03/2015 08:24

Communication is all, and this is easy.

I would simply say to him that you love him so much that you would like a few more "early nights", then when he is in bed just tell him what you want, most men don't need much encouragement to go diving!

pocketsaviour · 13/03/2015 08:32

Well done OP! BTW in my own experience you will get more pleasure from oral if you're shaved/waxed as a) it's easier for him to see and find your clit and b) the hair kind of "muffles" the sensations otherwise. That's just me though and I am quite hairy, you might find different!

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Embarrassedwife · 13/03/2015 08:56

It's a bit ironic though that when I asked him to only trim his (same time as he asked me to do mine) he said no haha

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dominogocatgo · 13/03/2015 09:08

Get him to shave you.

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Embarrassedwife · 13/03/2015 09:12

I think I'm going for a wax, I don't trust him or myself near there with a razor haha

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BathtimeFunkster · 13/03/2015 09:14

He won't even trim his pubes but you have to wax to get oral sex?

How about telling him to fuck off, the hateful shite?

Ugh, what a turn off.

A man who wants a hairless woman but expects you to get his lives in your teeth.

It's a shame you settled so early. Some men love women's bodies and don't demand blow jobs and then fall asleep straight after.

Witchofthenorth · 13/03/2015 09:19

If he has asked you to clear the garden, the least he could do would be to return the favour! Nothing worse than a stray pube in your teeth!

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Embarrassedwife · 13/03/2015 10:08

Couldn't agree more :-)

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Lweji · 13/03/2015 10:12

Does he realise that where he actually needs to act is hair free?
He just needs to do some parting and be a bit careful?

Witchofthenorth · 13/03/2015 10:27

Oh I don't know Lweji....if I haven't seen to "down there" for a while, no amount of parting is going to help you find it ....straightening irons and Kirby grips maybe...

My pubic hair is an entity unto itself!!

Lweji · 13/03/2015 10:57

I don't believe you are worse than me.

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Embarrassedwife · 13/03/2015 11:36

Roaring at you two. Makes me feel better about it all :-)

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ShonaOCasey · 13/03/2015 15:44

easier for him to find it?!
if he can't find it I think yr onto a non starter

BreakingDad77 · 13/03/2015 16:42

I think he should manscape though, drop hints about how it makes it look longer!

No need to go bald - just trim it down a bit, finger width

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Embarrassedwife · 13/03/2015 16:48

I'll trim it for him, would be happy to oblige x

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Eekaman · 14/03/2015 08:08

(erm, possibly tmi here, so if squeamish, look away now.....)

Bald skin against bald skin is deeply sensual. Beats bald skin against hairy skin, any time. Just sayin. :)

Tell him to get it off OP, he'll love you for it.

Sortmylifeout · 14/03/2015 08:27

He is just making an excuse. Some men like performing oral sex on women and some don't, simple. How does he know how he feels about the hair when he has never even been down there?

I'm sure women in the 70s still had the pleasure of receiving oral sex, complete with hairy bush.

I think he has a goddamn cheek and he just sounds lazy.

LoisPuddingLane · 14/03/2015 09:03

They did indeed. I have never had a man complain about it. And yes, the licky bit is not covered in hair.

Sortmylifeout · 14/03/2015 09:54

I also have a theory, admittedly based on a small sample.

Men who enjoy giving women oral sex actually like women and men who don't go there don't really like women very much at all.

I thought I'd died and gone to heaven after divorcing my ex who had never ventured down there in 10 years. The next guy I met was an expert ??

Don't put up with it op.

allyjay · 14/03/2015 10:09

God why are these sex threads usually so depressing? And so many people missing the actual point. So op talked to her dp (good for you op) and told him she would like oral sex, he said he'd been wanting to do it for YEARS but preferred her hair free. What?? If a man has been wanting to do something sexually for years, I doubt a bit of hair would have got in his way. Why didn't he just ask you to remove it then? Simple. I doubt very much he has been wanting to do it for years, otherwise he would have found a way. No doubt he'll come up with another excuse as to why he can't possibly do it soon enough. Hope I'm wrong op and you get the oral sex you want.

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