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Dating Thread 89

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Docmartensanddungarees · 09/03/2015 09:38

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

OP posts:
jesy · 28/03/2015 11:52

Think we broke up , we had a huge row as I'd transfer last of my saving be it all 25 quid so I had money last night .
Tried cash machine on way home n yes I was drunk n got pin number wrong and it swallowed it .
I just stood there in tears and he said it's ok ill give you the money and I lost my temper saying what your paying me for sex he called a bloody idiot so I stormed off slept on sofa.
He'd gone to work this am and I'm not sure if we still on or not , I don't even have bus fare home .
I love him ladies and feel stupid but I've got pride well a little bit left after what my job did to me.
He normally text me in am but nothing to do today

Whatsforsupper · 28/03/2015 12:08

jessy

He's probably a little hurt.

If you still want to see him text him it was a drunken pride thing. I'm pretty sure he'll understand.

Whatsforsupper · 28/03/2015 12:14

Jessy

Longer term you may need to try and accept when someone is simply being kind;) There is a huge difference between someone being kind V someone trying to buy or control you. In your case he is being kind. He knew your employment situation before you dated.

I understand,you're broke, you want to pay your way it can all get a bit too much.

Finances are massive reason relationships/marriages fail. Its very stressful being broke....I've being in your shoes.

I think you need to have an honest conversation-explain your fears and try and find some middle ground. You've posted a lot about money stress's.

jesy · 28/03/2015 12:19

He texted saying he swooped shift and be back at his soon .
And we need to talk , don't sound good that

I owe him 200 quid I've not got as well

Blossomflowers · 28/03/2015 12:35

Morning all, got a bit drunk and spent the night sobbing in X arms. Still feel so sad.
jesy Try not to panic, I think he was being nice, know the first argument always feel horrible. Sure it will be ok.
Scrambled Yuk I hate is when men speak like that before you have met, I would cancel.
Thank you all for your kind words about my lovely kitty. Her babies are acting a bit weird. Boy kitty slept on my pillow last night and staring in my ace this morning.
Just had a message from Mr Barge, will see what happens

Sienna17 · 28/03/2015 12:55

jesy I too think Mr Post was being kind, he sounds like the sort of bloke who wouldn't just stand there but would try to help. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but I think you owe him a massive apology for what you said to him. From what you have posted on here it sounds like he really is one of the good guys but even a good guy will only put up with so much. I know money troubles can cause real problems in a relationship so you need to have a proper talk with him and come to some sort of understanding about things. Like I said please don't think I'm being harsh - you and Mr Post are one of the few success stories on this thread and I'd hate for it to end because of a drunken misunderstanding!

jesy · 28/03/2015 14:40

We had a good long chat,
He said he loves me n likes to treat me to stuff and I best get used to it.
I am just not used to it , it like he got my dog a box for her to relax in my ex never even asked her over if that makes sense.

Been looking after me , admitted not very well at times since I was 17,
Not used to ppl or more to point I'm not good accept help.

I said don't want to be a charity case , he said I'm not but if make me feel better I can iron a shirt or to lol

SuperFlyHigh · 28/03/2015 15:10

well that's a good outcome Jesy. Just take it easy on yourself for a while.

One day you'll get a job and have more money and then you'll be able to treat Mr Post to nice stuff.

Its also worth remembering that if you two are in it for the long haul he may also have trouble with money etc in the future and as long as you're both there for each other that's the most important thing.

Rioux · 28/03/2015 15:37

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dontcallnotdating · 28/03/2015 16:46

Hi guys,
just posted a really long thread about my awful date, but I feel a bit got at now, so I've popped back here.

jesy · 28/03/2015 17:08

Welcome home

dontcallnotdating · 28/03/2015 17:27

Aw thanks jesy. This thread does feel like home.

ScrambledEggAndToast · 28/03/2015 18:00

Aww Jesy, it doesn't sound as though he thinks you're a charity case. From what you've posted it seems as though he's being nice. You never know, maybe you could end up graduating from this thread Wink

jesy · 28/03/2015 18:03

Scrambled

Tbh I'd hate to leave you lot x

ScrambledEggAndToast · 28/03/2015 18:24

It is pretty fun on here Grin

jesy · 28/03/2015 18:40

I don't have mates I trust but you guys I do.

Mini update,

He buys food I iron a shirt or three lol ,
Plus I go camping omg camping how the hell will I straightened my hair lol

Hope every one has a good night , dating or other wise

MadeMan · 28/03/2015 19:25

"camping how the hell will I straightened my hair lol "

You'll have to get all the mud and worms out of your hair first.

jesy · 28/03/2015 19:38

I'm hoping it's glamping

Mud in my hair no fing chance lol

Reallyme71 · 28/03/2015 19:43

Evening all Smile

Mademan Grin

Blossom sorry I haven't posted early but so, so sorry about your kitty.

Jesy I am glad you sorted it out with Mr P. It's hard but Rioux and others make very good points. A partnership is not about the even split of finances but what each gives the other in the relationship- emotional or material.

Scrambled Personally, I would be focusing on the match man and avoiding him. I don't get the suggestiveness before you have even met!

Whatsfor glad the chatting going well

Rasp go you!!! Sounds fun Wink just don't have something messy to eat!!!

Sienna I can't remember do you have a date this weekend?

Waves to Lurking, Eclipse and Dontcall Super and everyone else Grin

No updates from me on the dating scene. Mr M are practising LD at the moment Smile

Reallyme71 · 28/03/2015 19:55

Mr M are practising LD at the moment

Which is not some strange sexual or otherwise practice but meant to say Mr M and I are practising LD (Long distance) etc

MadeMan · 28/03/2015 20:04

My innocent mind assumed it was his Long Division he was practising. Wink

Sienna17 · 28/03/2015 20:41

No dates for me this weekend really I'm giving OLD a rest for a while, have deleted my profile so I'm not tempted to log on!

Reallyme71 · 28/03/2015 21:14

Mademan Grin What about you? Anyone on the horizon?

Sienna don't blame you! Wonder if you will last longer than Rasp ? Wink

Lurkingforanswers · 28/03/2015 21:20

Hey Everyone :-) My date last night with Mr Cocky didn't end well.
The short version is that he wanted something I wasn't prepared to give and even if I wanted to see him again(I certainly don't) he wont be calling me. Only two dates in so best to find out he's a nobber early on.

Jesy Glad it's all o.k with you and post. It was a silly argument,not a big deal. You have to hang onto him though, I like Mr Post.

Scrambled You decided on Mr sunday date yet?

Blossom Glad your ex was there for and you had a bit of a cry.
Hope it gets easier for you.

Rasp Good luck with the date. If your happy then no need to give up the old yetSmile

Hi to Really and everyone else. Hope you're all having a good weekend

MadeMan · 28/03/2015 21:21

Nope, nobody on my horizon at moment.