MIL lives a couple of hours away so we don't see her often, but used to see her approx every other month. It always seemed to be a hassle for her though and we normally had to change our plans to fit in with her as she is never willing to change hers. Last year we saw her once partly because dh is so fed up with fitting in with her, but mainly her complete disinterest in us or anything we are doing. We didn't suggest meeting up and neither did she. In the end dh felt guilty so we went to see her. When we are there she doesn't talk to the dc or dh, but will moan to me. She tends to criticise her friends and the voluntary things she does and I find it very draining. She will cook us lunch then tell us how much the meat cost (she is very well off), sigh if we sit in the wrong place at the table, expect the dc to go to bed at 7pm (they are 11 and 8!) - the whole thing is stressful and we are relieved when it is over. She is a widow but has had a man friend for approx 1 year who she is obsessed with. Now she never phones us apart from birthdays. She spoke to ds on his birthday and thought he was dd as she doesn't know the dc. DH normally phones every 2 weeks through duty and the calls last less than 1 minute (he times them). Dh has a lovely sister who has recently had a baby and found it quite stressful. MIL has shown no interest and been no help. SIL only lives 30 mins from MIL so there is no excuse. SIL is so upset DH wonders whether to have a word with MIL but doesn't want to start a family feud. Any advice appreciated.