I'm back to update. Things got worse...

[verticalstripes]

I'm not sure how to link to the old thread so if somebody can do that I'd really appreciate it.

On sunday I was about to go to the shop and my friend was in a break from work so sent a message and said they needed the shop anyway which meant they would be going past my house. They offered me a lift. When I got dropped back home my DP said "who the fuck is that guy?" the car is also not a uk car so i got out on what is normally the drivers side. He was angry and asked me if I had been driving, in the last thread I mentioned he didn't want me to learn. He told me to get the fuck out and threw me out, I only managed to get a few things that were already packed in a case from before.
I got outside and didn't know what to do so i called my friend who came back and picked me up, they took me up to the bar as they had to work and didn't have time to take me anywhere else. I arranged a hotel for the night, the next day I went back and he was very angry. He was shouting a lot and then something happened. He touched my arm and although he didn't hurt me I felt like a huge line had been crossed in the action and it was the first small boundary broken before it would escalate. He slammed the door over and over again and I left having only managed to get a couple more things.

I've been living in the hotel the past week.

He keeps sending me texts, one minute saying awful things then the next saying he is sorry, so sorry, he is ill, he is getting help etc. He called me up and said he was going to dump all my things and the cats. Then hung up. I sent a text saying "please don't hurt the cat" then he called back and said "Who the fuck do you think I am? I wouldn't hurt the cats" but literally one minute before had said he would dump them somewhere.

I've missed parts out, I don't mean to drip feed I just struggle to write it all now.

Police, now. Get them to help you get your stuff and your cat. Get everything documented.

Move back to your family. You have no reason to stay there. You are not safe there.

So glad I saw this thread, and glad you're ok, Vertical. The last thread left us uneasy after the sinister laughter and then it all went quiet, we thought he might have read it.

Well done for getting out! I have to echo the posters who have said get away to where you have family and old friends. You won't be much better off staying in the same little town as him, even if you have a couple of newish friends there. You'll always be looking over your shoulder, avoiding certain places, wondering what he's telling people, worrying about what's getting back to him.

It'd be so great if you could make a fresh start far far away from him and all his negativity. What was your living situation before you met him? It was only a year ago you said, I think, can you just go back?

I know your disability is a problem, you haven't given details on how mobile you are, but could your friend give you a lift to the train station? Don't worry about your OU course, you can do it anywhere, I know there's more to it like funding or whatever but it's all stuff you can work out later.

Have you told your family what's happened?

P.S he will DEFINITELY threaten suicide at some point, so brace yourself for that because they all do it, they use it like a trump card to get you back onside. Just take it with a pinch of salt, and call the police for him if you're genuinely worried. He'll shit himself seeing a police car pulling up.

Verticalstripes, how are things now?