I've been with my partner for about 2 years. We have been serious for the last 11 months, which is when I introduced him to my dc and now we've progressed to him being here most of the time. At first everything was really great, recently things have changed. We used to cook together every night and enjoyed it. However he seems to get irritated at me now , I only have a small kitchen so when I am in his way he gets visibly annoyed, or when im chopping he'll raise his eyebrows and say I'm doing it wrong, or will just sigh at me. I've stopped cooking with him now, when he's in the kitchen I keep away. He is happy to do all the cooking, washing up so I just leave him to it.
Another issue is that he's told me he sometimes feels insecure in a relationship. Fair enough, so do I sometimes. I have male friends/colleagues who I keep in touch with via text. If my phone makes a noise, or vibrates, my partner will yet again sigh loudly and pull this face like he is gritting his teeth. He will do this whoever it is texting me though even if it's a female friend, he has no way of knowing who it is. I have found myself turning the vibrate/noise off my phone, or quickly putting it down if I hear him coming into the room to avoid his stupid reaction. When he gets into one of these moods, he'll often go silent and just look really pissed off. I will ask what's wrong and he says "nothing" when it's obvious there is. I may then give up and go up to bed, he'll later follow and we'll lay there in a silent, tense atmosphere.
He's at his house for the next couple of days and I am looking forward to being able to lay on my sofa tonight and browse mumsnet, or text whoever I want and laugh out loud if they tell me a joke. I have spoken to my partner about all these issues before and he's said he will change and communicate more and not get paranoid when I talk to someone else. But still the same thing happens. Not sure I want to continue this relationship anymore, feeling like I am walking on eggshells in my own house in a relationship that's still fairly new-ish. This post makes him sound like a teenager, but he is in his 40s! I am in my twenties so we do have quite a big age gap, not sure if that has anything to do with it as it's never been a problem for us.