...and it's my relationship worth saving?
DP has lied to me about a number of things, most of which would eventually come out and his lies were all about making the right impression. However, they've wrecked my trust in him and I question how well I know him.
He lied about:
- the number of children he has, because he wasn't on speaking terms with one of them at the time?!?! I found out through one of this children that there was a sibling in the equation
- the number of times he's been married, although I knew that there had been another woman before his last ex-wife whom he has children with. This is bizarre as it has no impact on us, after all the relationship was there either way
- my engagement ring, which he had bought for somebody else but, according to him, changed his mind about asking her. I found out when I found an old picture of the ring with his stuff, from many years ago, and challenged him on it. He swears that the ring was never given to anyone, however the picture was described as 'ring alteration' when sent through by the jeweller.
As you can see, I had a 'smashing' Valentine's yesterday 
. The second (or first) marriage thing came up on Friday night and we've been sleeping in separate rooms since. We were out all day yesterday and we already had something planned (and there was no chance that I was going to throw tickets etc away), and he did try to regain some sense of normality throughout the day. He did apologise at one point, saying that he shouldn't have lied, but there has been no proper conversation and he's barely speaking to me. What I really want to do is to confront him, get conversation going and decide how we are going to resolve this. However, I feel that he needs to take stock and take the lead with sorting out this mess, whether is by coming clean with stuff and giving us a chance or sorting out the practicalities of our break up.